My child is 9. I am almost sure this will be the last time she gets a visit from Santa Claus. I think this destroys my feelings. But at the same time I know this is the way it goes.
2006-12-08 04:26:48 · 19 answers · asked by paisan_7 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I got in bad trouble when I was small - As "punishment" they told me who Santa is (or isn't). So I want to keep it going for her.
2006-12-08 04:39:33 · update #1
There's no need to actually sit down and tell her. Just enjoy Christmas and don't even worry about whether Santa is real or not. I still sign my son's gifts from "Santa" and he's 16 years old. Of course, he doesn't believe, but it's just fun.
2006-12-08 04:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I have an 11 year old daughter. I told her about that age. But, it helped her a lot, I found a book. Is Santa for Real. It tells the true story of the real man. Saint Nicholas. Though he is dead now, he is still very much real, and in people's hearts. Because we, all share a wanting to give to others. This gave the people a chance to all be Santa. I still play Santa Claus, and ENJOY IT!! Though, now, it helps me to know, she knows. Though, I am a christian, my daughter knows the real meaning of Christmas. It doesn't bother her really at all about Santa Claus. People are different, and are affected different ways. Go easy on your child. It may be best not to do it so soon. Maybe not before Christmas. Has your child mentioned others saying there is no Santa? That could be the time to approach her. There is nothing wrong in believing. Let her know this. Though there is no, and never was flying deer, or elves, that Santa Claus came about for the love of other people. And grew over many years. Maybe let your daughter come up with her own ideas of playing Santa for you or someone! Hope it goes well!
2006-12-08 04:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by cupcake32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My youngest daughter is also 9. She has been asking a ton of questions this year about Santa, so we are going through what you are. I have an advantage in that we also have older children, ages 27, 25, 22 (our youngest was a huge surprise!!). So, I've been through this before. Even after our older kids really knew that we were Santa, we still gave them "Santa gifts" until they moved out on their own. I never came right out to any of my children and said "There is no Santa Clause". I think mainly because I believe in the spirit of Santa. Every year, as a family, we do something nice for someone else in secret during the Christmas season. When the kids were little, I'd say, "Sometimes Santa can't get all of his deliveries done, so he asks others to help him." They have always gotten great joy and excitement out of being "Santa's Helper" long after they knew that we weren't really helping Santa at all.
2006-12-08 05:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation. My son is 9 and still believes but they recently had a debate at school on fact and myth which brought up Santa Claus. I told him that if he truly believes then Santa will always be real and for those that said he didn't exist, its only because they stopped believe. Let children have their childhood, they'll find out in their own way when the time is right.
2006-12-08 04:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From what I have read I am a cruel parent, My girls have no clue that Santa is suppose to bring you gifts. They are only 2 and 3 but I have no intention of telling them that Santa brings gifts. And that is the way I and my siblings were raise. My mothers gifts are signed from Santa.. that's how we know they are from her. But never has a big jolly man landed on my roof and brought gifts.
But I agree with most everyone you don't have to have a 'talk' just keep it up, if they ask just tell them you believe...
2006-12-08 06:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents never told me about Santa, so I never believed. But the family I moved in with at 13 signed my Christmas present from Santa and I thought it was cute. You could just keep giving him presents from Santa and never have to have the talk. He'll know when he knows and if he asks, just tell him.
2006-12-08 05:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12 yr old girl and a 5 yr old boy. They both still believe! She just watched Polar Express and is newly convinced. I will tell her when she stops "BELIEVING." It is her decision to make. Her friends have told her, but she is convinced he is real for those that believe. I have mixed feelings myself but it is all up to her. I think she might figure it out this year but we'll just have to wait and see. I have told her that Santa is a very busy man and you may not get everything you want. He can only afford to get each child one or two gifts. Mommy and Daddy help out with the rest.
Good Luck and we'll be thinkin' of you!
2006-12-08 05:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by April S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem odd, but I never actually believed in Santa. I guess I could tell by my parents' tone of voice or something. Anyway, for years I could tell how excited my mom got when she told me there was a Santa, so I went along with it. Eventually one year she admitted there wasn't and I was relieved that I could stop pretending for her sake. You might be suprised at how well your child will take it. Hope that helps :)
2006-12-08 04:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Leina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is 10 & my daughter is 6, I just explained to him in a way he understood, I told him that when a child turns a certain age santa stops bringing them parents and that is when the parents take over..............
2006-12-08 05:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you're doing the right hing about letting her know about Santa because i don't think that a child should be lied to for so long so i don't think that your punishing the child by telling her that you are Santa. she will be upset for a while probably but don't mind it. she will get over it. i did
2006-12-08 05:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lady_A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋