My family doesn't want me with a guy because he's not the same race and they think when it comes to dating I should stick with my own race WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-12-08 04:25:27 · 20 answers · asked by Lil' Momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont listen to them....my mom always told me that it didn't matter what they looked like or what color they were..black, purple, green polka dots.....as long as they treated me the way i deserved to be treated and i was happy....she was happy.
so think of it this way....either they accept it or they can risk the chance of loosing you b/c of the preferences they think you should have. do not EVER loose your morals and individuality b/c of what others think! you have to live with it and no one else really
2006-12-08 04:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does race have to do with anything? Everyone is the same we all have two eyes and a mouth. So what if our skin color is different we are all the same. Pretty much tell your parents that. You really like this guy and that race doesnt matter. I always had problems with the race thing, (my mom is from the philippines and my dad is from here and when my dad met my mom and got married some parts of the family stopped talking to him which I think is stupid! We are all the freaking same! No better or less then any other race)
2006-12-08 12:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't care what they think it is your life and your decision on who you want to date and your happiness.I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we are from different races,at first my family wasn't to happy about it but then they got to know him and found out that he is a good man who makes me happy and that is all that matters.Your happiness and safety is all that you should be worrying about,because if you continue this relationship you are going to find people who are going to hate on you for being with this man,don't be bothered by these people they only do this cause they are miserable with their own lives.I hope I have helped you,and at the end of the day we are all the same under the skin,our looks are what makes us unique!
2006-12-08 12:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by kat daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's human, he's the same race.
If you're over 18, they can make suggestions, but it's still your life (ask the people whose families told them not to get tattoos or whatever and see what they say). Ultimately, it's YOU who's going to be spending the most time with the guy, so you get to cast the deciding vote.
If they can't get over it, that's their problem.
2006-12-08 13:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mitch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a different race. Although I never regretted there are problems which I never thought of before i got married. if you really loves this guy and you can picture yourself living with him for the rest of your life... go for it if not then its not worth sacrificing your relationship with yr family
2006-12-08 13:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by istina jap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family is a bit racist. If you are comfortable in a relationship with this guy who cares what your family thinks. A relationship is between two people, you and him, not you him and your family. But beware, if you go on with the relationship with him, you will most likely have a bunch of hardships between you and your family. You need to ask yourself if you think your relationship with this guy is worth this type of trouble with your family. If yes go on with your relationship, if no I suggest you end it, because he clearly isn't the one for you if the trouble is too much to bear.
2006-12-08 12:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ever let your family make you decisions fo ryou...a person is a person and frankly it pisses me off to hear this racism ,,,i know it exists and my step family has put me through this with past boyfriends,and actually my current one......my mother always said no matter who you love i will accept it! as long as he treats you with love aand respect! but my step father and brothers would be like "oh another sp*c? what are you guys gonna have little spi*'s running around you house"...and like saying "i wont be an uncle to a sp*c child!" now i have been with the same puerto rican guy for 4 1/2 years now,( i am white),,and in the beginning they hated the thought of him, but they eventually adjusted to him and now talk about him like another brother of theres....people can be very judgemental...but you should never let that effect your feelings and decisions,,,if love is present dont run away from it becasue of someones opinion..i understand they are your parents but they need to understand that we didnt live in their generation,,,and that they need to accept change and the fact taht you feel a certain way..if they are understanding at all..they may not like it now but if you force them to get to know the boy and to realize that he is a good person regardless of his skin color they will eevntually not be discouraged about it all....good luck!
2006-12-08 12:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm with you, if you are a minor and living at home with your parents you have to respect their beliefs. My family was the same way, and when I went away to college I dated whoever I saw fit and they were none the wiser. Good luck.
2006-12-08 12:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand up with your guy if you really love that person regardless of what your family thinks about it. If you're of age, you certainly have the prerogative to make decisions for yourself. Eventually, your family may accept this if they see you happy.
2006-12-08 12:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Saltbreaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. Its too bad your family can't see past the color of his skin.
My best friend is Asian, my family tried to tell me not to hang out with her. That was 16 years ago and we are still best friends.
My parents even went to her wedding. BTW..she married a white guy!!
2006-12-08 12:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋