how do i tell him?

Question

how do i tell my guy friend that i want to be more than juss friends with benifits with him? he told me he really dont want to make a commintment right now....but he dont know i like him as a bf. i think he has a right to know but how should i tell him... or should i tell him? im afraid if i do tell him i will ruin what we got know......so could you help me plz?

Answer 1

Well Think of it this way, If he shared the same feelings for you as you share for him then he wouldnt say, he really doesnt want to make a commintment right now. Sounds like it a nice way of him telling you that your not his type, But he's being as nice about it as he can, hey @ least your friends.
I could be wrong, just the way I see it

Answer 2

I think you should just tell him. You never know, maybe he's just not ready to make a commitment becuase he just wants to be with you or something like that. Or maybe you should just stay friends for a while and then gradually take him out or ask him if he wants to do something that weekend. Because you know him and I don't, it's hard for me to decide which way would be the best to go, but I have a gut feeling that you should just talk to him. Maybe he'll need a little bit of time, but it might work out sooner or later!
Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think it's necessarily that he doesn't want a commitment, although that is possible. I think it's more that he looks at you as a hookup and not as girlfriend material and he doesn't want to ruin the fact that you two are friends with benefits. Maybe you should tell him, but it's clear that he most likely isn't looking for anything more than just a hookup. Sorry if this sounds mean, but I'm just speaking from my own personal experience, and I think you sound better than a girl who will just let her friend use her, especially when she wants more.

Answer 4

You sound confused- you want to be more than sex partners with him yet you are afraid to tell him that because you dont want to mess up being sex partners with him. WHat do you want?
If you really want to be more than f!ck buddies then tell him that you are going to have to cut short his 'benefits' because you guys dont want the same thing out of the relationship.
Other wise if your content on being his go to girl, then dont say anything to him. After all, you already know that he doesnt want a commitment, which is a bullsh!t way of saying 'I still wanna screw other people'

Sorry to sound brash, but there's no other way to put it.

Answer 5

Just tell him if he is not interesetd get out of this silly relationship, friends with benefits is just stupid, someone always ends up hurt. Respect yourself and if he doesnt want to be your bf move on.

Answer 6

if u think it's his right to know there's no problem becase u agree he has right to reject it,and if u wanna him for ur self too,but maybe a little patience could let to time to solve it!,so that's the problem: can u wait!???
but after all if u saw someone else is about to suggest him,don't stay calm and tell him for not to regret miss him for another !

Answer 7

You have to just tell him. It is not going to be good for your emotional well being to pretend that you don't want something more. If he is not prepared to give that to you then I suggest you stop doing what you are doing because you are just in a world of heartache if you keep wishing for more and he can't give it to you. You need to find a partner who is looking for what you are looking for.

Answer 8

just tell him if he really is ur friend and if he likes u who knows u could hit it off oh yeah and next time use the spell check its just not juss

Answer 9

If you are happy with what you have now so much that you don't want to lose it, don't worry about it. Otherwise, tell him how you feel. If you do that however, you will have to be prepared to accept any results that may occur.

Answer 10

Just be honest with him. That is the best thing to do otherwise, you will just continue down the same road.