My dad is 70 with a couple of minor health problems. He offers to watch my kids (ages 3,4,& 11) while my husband and I work and go to school. We have worked it out to where he doesn't have to watch them everyday, only on Tuesdays from 11:30 a.m. to 9:30 p.m. while I'm in school. I made my schedule over a month ago and he said ok. Today he says he doesn't think he can watch them and now all the classes I need are full, so I can't change my schedule. I think he should have told me way bfore now so I could do something about it. Should I be angry?
2006-12-08 04:20:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutely! Who wouldn't be. I mean you took all the proper steps in trying to make sure that your schedule coincides with his approval and then he does this at the last minute. Don't beat yourself up, you are right to be angry. But don't let it over cloud your judgement, he is still your father and if you know he has health issues he might not be around for long. Don't let this tear your relationship with him.
2006-12-08 04:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have been a little upset but hey this is what has happened and you need to find a way to have your kids watched.I hate it when someone says they can do something and then when it comes close opps sorry something came up. But it is your father and I guess you could talk to him how your are a little upset but dont get to angry you still have some school ahead of you and other times someone is going to have the kids watched
2006-12-08 12:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being upset about how to deal with it is OK . Maybe at 70 it is too much for him and he didn't think it would. Be happy at 70 he is still here what would happen if while the kids were there the worst happened like giving them a bath or something maybe he realized it wasn't safe either.
2006-12-08 12:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to remember that at age 70 its very hard to keep up with active children and yes i think he should have let you know before you made out your schedule. is there somebody else that you know and trust that could watch your kids that day.
2006-12-08 12:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a long time to watch kids so young at 70..Maybe he it's too much for him? Even though it is only one day it's a really long day! Maybe consider some daycare? Do you have subsudized daycare where you live?
2006-12-08 12:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be angry with your dad, you should feel privileged that you have a father who is willing to look after his grandkids at his age and physical state. You can't always assume he will be able to look after the kids, I would suggest finding a part time caregiver that would be available on short notice.
2006-12-08 12:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by romasuave1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why be angry?because you have a reason?He's an old man and he may have found the job a bit much and the hours a bit long.I know it's an inconvenience for you but remember things happen for a reason and wait a little while and you will see why this happen end the way it has.God always closes one door and opens another.Wait and see,school won't evaporate.
2006-12-08 12:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I admit, I'd be a little ticked if my dad did that (and if I had kids, or a husband, or went to work and whatnot). If he's done it before, perhaps you should consider getting a more reliable babysiter.
Good luck to ya.
2006-12-08 12:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by ღQueenღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
things come up in life so maybe it's something he didn't know about before. you need to find an alternate arrangement. some schools have allowances for child care, and you should look into that.
2006-12-08 12:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends why he's changed his mind really. If he doubts his ability to cope with them it's better that he tells you now than looks after them and something goes wrong. If however he's just changed his mind because he's thought of something else he wants to do then yes, I'd be annoyed.
However, if he's done it before, why'd you rely on him this time. If somebody lets you down once it's his fault, if they let you down twice it's your fault.
2006-12-08 12:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋