is it bad when you wish your kids were as good as others?

Answer 1

No, I think everyone compares their kids with others. The only thing is it is totally not fair to the children. All kids are different and develop at their own rate. And as tempting as it may be - we can't give compare them.

Answer 2

Not as long as you don't tell them. I don't know how old your kids are, but all kids have different personalities. If you know a mother who has "really good kids", ask her for advice on how she raises/disciplines/rewards her children. The same things won't always work for different kids, but it is a starting place. No matter what, don't tell your kids, "Why can't you be more like Suzie and Jimmy"? That will do nothing but make them feel you would rather have different children and worsen the situation. They will feel unloved. Look at the way you interact with them. It may be that they are acting up because they are needing your attention and they will get it anyway they can.

Answer 3

No, it's not bad. I do it all the time. My kids are 5 and 2 (mostly with the 5 yr old). But it's funny, the teacher says he behaves great in the class and is very helpful and friendly. And when he spends time with his Aunt or Grandparents they say he's fine. BUT...when he gets home with me he's like a tornado! He exhausts me...I asked my parents, whom I totally trust their parenting skills, to let me know if I let things go too far with him or if it's just normal kid behavior for his age. They give me great feedback. Maybe ask a parent you trust what they think...whether thats a friend or your own parent or grandparent. Some times I think I get too worried about his behavior when other people say its perfectly normal for his age.

It's good to get an outside perspective...give us some examples.

Answer 4

I think you have to accept your children for who they are and not compare them to other kids, I am certain your children have their great points and their bad points focus on the good and work to re train the bad behavior. Make sure they know the rules and it they are broken there will be a price to pay. But don't compare them to others all the time,find the good in them and focus on it, each and everyone of us is an individual and I for one don't care to be compared or judged based on what someone else does.
Love them for who they are!

Answer 5

I think we all think that from time to time however, its not good for them or you to compare them to other children. I mean its completely unfair to do that because even though those kids may seem very well mannered believe me they have their faults just the same and their parents are asking the same thing you are. Just be happy with what your kids have to offer and make sure you let them know of their strong points and then help them with the things that they are not so great at, but always be proud of them no matter what.

Answer 6

It's not bad to wish for it. It's only bad when you compare them to other kids out loud. For example...Don't point to another kid and say "Why can't you be like that one?" That will only tear them down.
Try to step back and see how you are handling your kids. Is there something that you can do a bit differently? Do you eventually give in to them?

Answer 7

certainly not!, everyone should want there children to acheive the best in life that they can, its only natural to compare your kids to others, just dont go overboard and push to hard as this could have a negative effect.

We cant all be high acheivers, but as long as your kids try the best that they can, thats all you can ask of them

Answer 8

No....I wish some kids were as good as others everytime I see them act up in a restaurant or grocery store while their parents disregard their behavior

Answer 9

Here's the biggest secret of life: Every family is messed up! You and your kids are nothing but normal.

Answer 10

Your kids ARE as good as others...just not in front of you!