We have been together for 6 months.We love each other but our relationship has been very rocky and we fight a lot. We have tried numerous things to stop the fighting but nothing seems to work. I am insecure and worried that he is going to leave me for someone else. What can I do to try and fix us? Or, should I just let him go?
2006-12-08 04:12:23 · 27 answers · asked by my_own_frog 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOOK IF YOU GUYS ARE FIGHTING ALL THE TIME, YOU DONT HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP, YOU GUYS SHOULD GET A BREAK. IS NOT GOOD TO BE FIGHTING ALL THE TIME
2006-12-08 04:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by crazygirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your love is strong enough ,one of you will find a way to control the constant bickering. If it stems from insecurities or other issues, it can get better, but it will take someone with a strong will to overcome any self issues. Also a strong desire to know that it is either self-improvement or possibly the loss of the relationship. Argueing and fighting takes its toll over time and you will wonder what it would be like to have a more loving relationship. I hope it will get better for you both. If not, don't get stuck in a love-hate relationship to where you can't live with someone and you can't live without them, either. You will miss out on the chance to possibly find someone more compatible and the stress will not be as great. Don't think you'll never be able to love again or you will continue being miserable in this relationship . However, If you and your partner are willing to make some big changes in ways of thinking, actions and words then it will all be worth it if you both love each other.
2006-12-08 04:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...nobody here is a mind reader honey...it depends on what it is that's going on in your relationship. Do you fight a lot over which kind of milk to buy or do you fight about cheating on each other? Relationships are hard and they take A LOT of work. There is always going to fights and arguements, if there weren't THEN something would be wrong. You have to take some time are really look @ your relatioship. Compare all the good and bad things, compare how you are when you're with him versus how you are when you're apart. Take one good hard look at your relationship and ask yourself it everything that you have left is really worth saving. And you shouldnt be insecure. Maybe you dont need to be in ANY relationship until you figure out how you feel about yourself
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God Bless
2006-12-08 04:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel insecure and your having thoughts of it not working, and also thinking he might leave you...then you should just let him go. Six months into a relationship and it's not working...is already a sign. If you two really love each other that much, like you say, then try to make it work. What do you have to lose? You can never try hard enough, always remember! Try to go see a conselor, it might help. If he isn't willing to make it work or go to a conselor, then there's definatley nothing there for two. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship and hope my advice could help.
2006-12-08 04:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant fix the relationship until you fix yourself. Trust me I am so insecure and I have ruined one relationship after another over these issues. There is not ever going to be a guy that you can be successful with if you stay the way you are. If you change, the relatonship will automatically change. It takes one of you to initiate the change. You need to remind yourself that you ARE beautiful and that you do have more to offer. What you are saying by being insecure is that you don't believe you have any qualities to keep a man interested in you. Do you really believe that? You can't force someone to stay with you, they stay with you because they WANT to.
2006-12-08 04:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to fix you.There will never be a relationship between two people that can't change.If you think you are going to lose the affection of another,how is that your fault?some people lose their feelings for others and some times feelings grow.who knows why and who knows who lasting love will happen to.You must enjoy the good times while they are happening and when or if they stop,new days ahead and new relationships to explore.Your life is a journey and along the way you will meet many people who will come and go through your life.Learn from all and love who you want and accept those who don't love you.On your way you may find the person who's rib you fit,and you may not,but please enjoy the journey and don't cry over things that are not meant to be permanent.
2006-12-08 04:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that you are so insecure is causing problems as well. Try trusting him and letting him do his thing, while you do yours. Having a little time apart will help too. If nothing at all has worked try letting him go. And as the saying goes, if it is meant to be he will come back. If everything is truly meant to be it will happen...
2006-12-08 04:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by tot2506 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what should you do to fix "YOU"? Ask yourself what is making you insecure? Whta happened in your life/childhood that causes you to be insecure? If a man is going to leave you, you have no control over that other person. So there is no need to worry about someone elses actions.
2006-12-08 04:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie do you love him? if yes don't let him go. all relationships start out the same, so romantic, then you get to know one another better and the fighting starts. do you want to go through all of this again? you have been with him for 6 months, my boyfriend and i fight a bit and we have been together 15 months but we still love each other you can make it work.
2006-12-08 04:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by aimez20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation, but in a 3 years relationship, (and i was in love with him) and we were bad and he told me these problems are for different personalities, later he broke up with me and I decided try to let him go for he search another persons, and maybe he can find another women, but only past 4 months and he came back to me.
The point is you have to let him go, he needs time and space to think what he really wants, and if he loves you, obviosly he will come back. Nowadays we are still in love. I hope happend the same with you! Good luck! ; )
2006-12-08 04:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Delosly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have a problem within yourself if you are insecure and afraid he will leave you. Maybe you need to work on yourself before you persue a relationship, that may possibly help cut down on all the fighting.
2006-12-08 04:20:44 · answer #11 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋