Student Hitting on me?

Question

I teach the 12th grade and all the students are 18. There is this one student who is sort of weird and he keeps looking at me in a weird way like very intense and stuff. Whenever I scold him and tell him to do his work and stop staring at me he'll still do it. He also checks out my *** in front of my whole class. He knows im married and i have kids but he still hits on me and buys me things. He'll say stuff like "you look amazing in those pants". He buys me expensive stuff like 100$ chocolates when i tell him not to... what should i do?

Answer 1

I noticed you did not mention how it detests you, so I am assuming, at least subconsciously, that you don't mind. Sorry if I am wrong. Do whatever you have to, but always keep your kids in your mind, first and foremost! If your hubby is not showing you the attention you deserve, then you may be tempted. Just remmeber that an 18 year old male is not so mature. I remember some of my teachers looking so exquisite that I would have done such a thing. Lastly, remember the media. They live for this.

Answer 2

Since you've already talked to him about it, I'd say seek advice from either your department chair, principal, or school counselor to see what they think you should do, and how to handle the situation.

They may suggest you bring it up with him again in a private conference, and if that still doesn't work, you might want to have a meeting with him AND the counselor/principal, so that a solution can be reached.

Even though he's a student, it still constitutes as sexual harassment, plus it's just plain inappropriate and setting a bad example for other students in the class. Plus it's making you feel uncomfortable, and you shouldn't have to deal with that at work!

Good luck resolving this issue!

Oh yes, and be sure to document EVERYTHING!

Answer 3

Next time he buys you an expensive chocolate set, throw it in the garbage in front of the whole class and say something like, "Hu, I never eat junk like that. My husband knows better than to get me that cheep stuff." When he complains that it was $100, say, "Like I said, my husband knows better than to get me the cheep stuff. But then, you're neither as smart, nor as good looking, so I wouldn't eat a gift from you anyway. I have higher standards."

It doesn't matter if it's true, it only matters that he gets the point that you're too good for him, and you're taken, and that he is publically humilated when you make the point. He won't be back for more.

This is, of course, assuming the options of talking to him privately about what is apropriate and what isn't has failed.

Answer 4

I hope you are not accepting the gifts, this could lead him on. I would try to ignore him when he makes such comments, perhaps if he does not get a reaction to his comments he will stop. Some people do things for attention and if he no longer gets the attention he may stop all together. I think it could be hard to ignore an intense look and the sense that someone is staring but maybe with no reaction he will stop. Maybe he doesn't get attention from girls his own age (if he is weird) and you are giving him attention that he is searching for...Good luck with it.

Answer 5

Well event though they're of "legal" age, you as a teacher have to considere the ethics that govern your profession. If you have been taking these "gifts" you are wrong. Why?This leads the student on. Some important things to ask: Have you brought this to the attention to the student's parents?Have you talked to your husband about it? Have you talked to colleauges about it? Have you reported these incidents, comments, gestures, etc to the principal? If you haven't, then this isn't the answer you are looking for, is it?

Answer 6

Smarten up...Don't leave yourself open to some accusation by him or his parents that could put your position as teacher at risk. As soon as you get off this computer report this incident, and any others to your headmaster. I am a male and had a similar incident years ago with a young girl in my class. Scared me to death I composed a letter describing the incident and had it put in my work record just in case some story came about. The headmaster and guidance counselor spoke to the young lady and that was the end of it.....Try to ha ve him transfered to another class for your own protection, Take this very seriously.

Answer 7

You tell his counselor and prinicipal today. Ask to have him transferred out of your class, that should end the problem, if it doesn't then you report it to the school police officer with a demand that the situation be solved.

Your *** is grass if the kid brings up anything to anyone and you havent delt with it. The adult is ALWAYS wrong if it goes too far or long.

Answer 8

Its time to turn the table --He needs to be reported --there is so much with this in the media and the fact of the matter is that there are students throwing themselves at the teaching staff and it just goes unreported--You need to go to the Dean and tell him of this unwanted behavior (it is sexual harassment) and have him removed from the class completely--Don't ever accept ANY gift from him --in fact the next time he does this take him to the Dean and have him explain himself and his ABSOLUTELY rude behavior --Its time to turn the table Make a stand and be the first

Answer 9

Can you assign him to a different class? Talk to his parents or the principal. If that dont work get a restraining order on him or you'll end up like those teachers that slept with their students who are in jail now that you hear about on the news.

Answer 10

As a teacher you should tell the principal and his counsuler and get him remove from your classand when that does not work and he still doesn't stop hitting on you and buying you things it may be drastic but you could get a restraining order put against him if he does not stay away.