My friend is mad with me because i think the guy she is seeing is still married and with his wife..Scenario--Guy and my friend have been seeing eachother for like 4 months i think and she only has his cell# but he has her home and cell and work#'s.Now he does take her out on dates(dinner,movies etc..)but also they only go to her house..Now he told her what i think is some truth to his STORY..he and his wife are getting divorced but still live together while going seperate ways..he does his thing,she does hers but they also have a 1-1/2 yr old son so they interact for that reason..But i will say he is always at my friends house or out with her alot but he works alot too,so i figure he could always be tellin' the wife he is at work if thats what she's used too..
My friend is mad at me because i just think there's something fishy about the situation???? She says i just don't like him..I do but just think there are alot of holes in his situation..oh and she doesn't know where he lives!!
2006-12-08 04:06:57 · 13 answers · asked by ccrazeegyrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well this could be the situation, and he doesn't want her coming by and confusing his kid. But it is possible that he is married and lying about the whole thing. Or maybe it is not as bad as it seems and he is lying cause he still lives at home with his mother.
The thing is, you have told her how you feel and warned her. Now let her go about it the way that she wants and leave it alone. I know you are trying to look out for her but she is going to do what she wants. Just be sure to be there for her when things go south. That is what real friends do. And after she has experienced this life lesson and another situation is developing then maybe she will listen a little better next time around.
2006-12-08 04:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right in your assumption, but you can't force her to see the truth. If she is complaining about the situation all the time, tell her you've already gave her your opinion, it hasn't changed and you aren't going to go over and over the same stuff with her. She is just blind right now, and once she realizes the truth, she is going to need a friend, not someone who is gloating about being right (not that you would) so just drop it and let it go for now. Her decisions only affect her afterall, no matter how hard it may to watch a friend knowingly do something stupid.
2006-12-08 04:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lie to me...I'm with you.
In fact, I recently read an article about dating after divorce where they stated that unfortunately some men who professed to be divorced or single were actually still married...They said the things to look out for when spotting a still married man were...
1. they only give you a cell number, no home number
2. they never want you to see or go to their house
3. they don't introduce you to their friends or family
I wish I knew the website I was at, but, sorry I can't remember what it was.
But it sounds too fishy to me too.
2006-12-08 04:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my ex for about six months after we filed because he couldn't afford to move out yet. We both did our own thing and had separate bedrooms. Its tough when you have kids too. Hard to let go. Its possible he is telling the truth. I think you should let her do what she is gonna do, unless you know for a fact that he is lying. Be a good friend if he turns out to be an ***. Thats what friends are for.
2006-12-08 04:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....i know you're concerned becuase she's your friend, but it's really none of your business, it's her life let her learn from her mistakes, ya know? but yes, you are right, it does sound VERY fishing. He could be telling the truth, and doesnt want her to know where he lives in case she stops over one day or something, then things would be really uncomfortable. but on the other hand, he could be playing her (and his wife) REAL dirty and still be married. I would tell you friend to be up front with him. Secrets aren't good, especially in relationships and ESPECIALLY when it comes to simple things that SHOULD NOT be secret ( like, where you live).
2006-12-08 04:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a 0% chance of him getting a divorce. This is called 'having his cake and eating it too'.
If she won't believe you, then maybe this man's wife will. Give her an anonymous call. I bet when the wife shows up at your friends doorstep, your friend will realize just how right you were.
2006-12-08 04:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married! No intention of leaving I would say! Tell your friend who is *not* tied down not to get stuck in a potentially bad situation where alota people can get emotionally hurt! (incl. this man's son)
2006-12-08 04:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is something she needs to come to terms with and find out on her own..
you know how it is..you say something bad about the girls man..she gets defensive and angry...you'd do the same if she said something about yours..
she's going to resent you sticking your 2 cents worth in her business.....so...I'd back off..let her learn on her own..
and you know..you could always be wrong.
2006-12-08 04:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r right and she is being fooled.stay out of it,you've done your part by giving your unwanted opinion.
2006-12-08 04:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be real suspicious if I was her but if she's getting good sex from him she probably dont care!
2006-12-08 04:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dispatcher94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋