i have been dating this girl for a little for than a year now. she is the only person i have ever had sex with or even shared an orgasm with. however i am not the only person she has had sex with, she has had a few partners before me, started having sex a few years before me. this kind of makes me feel uncomfortable with the thought of experencing one girl possibly my whole life, im 19 and extremely happy with this girl everything + the sex is good im just not sure if its healthy for me to only have one partner for my whole life. what do you guys think?
2006-12-08 04:00:12 · 34 answers · asked by Mike G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think sleeping with more than one person is over rated to be honest. Everyone wonders if they are missing out on something but if your sex life with your girlfriend is good then youre not. Me and my boyfriend broke up for a while and during that time I slept with someone else, which I completely regret now. Dont risk losing someone you love just because you want to have sex with other girls, trust me its not worth it.
2006-12-08 04:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great when a guy isn't the one that has all the experience getting into a relationship. I am sure the bond that was formed between the two of you since she was your first is something you can never forget. No one ever forgets their first, so why would you want to ruin what you have with her just so that you can sleep with someone else? That could be the worst mistake of your life.
And yes, a lot of people are saying that sleeping with only one person your whole life is how it is supposed to work and all that, even though I think thats true, it doesnt always work out like that, but when you are happy with the person you are with and you are just thinking that you need to get a taste of someone else, you could lose the one you really love.
This is the excuse that many guys give the night before the wedding or something. It's ridiculous. Why give up something you are happy with?
2006-12-08 04:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm not sure if it's healthy for me to have one partner my whole life"? Um, dude, THAT IS healthy! Sex was only intended for a man and woman who are married and love each other. That's all it was ever created for. But the world has turned it around into the big "score" thang, sayin' that the more you "do," the better you are. That's just not right and it's corrupting the world.
It is healthy to only have one partner. You are more likely get more diseases from having multiple partners. Don't do sex til ya tie the knot!
2006-12-08 04:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by ღQueenღ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you will soon change your mind as you get older. After you have met more girls than you have now, i'm sure there will be urges to try and look for perhaps, a better sex partner. I'm not saying its impossible to do that but its gonna be very hard. Furthermore, you wouldn't know she might change in the future, would you? Don't worry, its a very healthy thing to be thinking of having just 1 partner as you know of all those STDs waiting for you around the corner should you decide to sleep around! Nonetheless, good luck to your dream, man!!
2006-12-08 08:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately healthy. However, if you feel this may be hurting your longer term relationship possibilities, you should talk to your partner about this. Let her know that you are curious about what else is out there. Maybe you guys can explore other sexual interactions together.
My personal feeling as a one woman guy tho is that being with one woman all your life is just fine. In fact, I can't wait to find the woman who wants to stay with me the rest of my life.
2006-12-08 04:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very good for you to have only one partner. First of all, there is a lesser risk of STD's and STI's. For you to want to experience more is to want to feed your ego. You have a good girl, why ruin that for some fun that will most likely not last? If things don't work out, then fine, you can go out and "experience" but for the time being, stay with your girl.
2006-12-08 04:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would it not be healthy to only have one sex partner? My boyfriend and I are proud of the fact that we are going to be the only person the other has ever slept with.
2006-12-08 04:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not impossible to do.... and if you are happy, you probably shouldnt throw what you have with her away to get laid by other girls. Its probably VERY healthy for you to only be with one girl in regards to STD's. I dont know anyone personally who has only been with one girl... So the chances are high that you two will end and you will still be able to sew your oats elsewhere, but I wouldnt end a relationship to do that. Thats pretty shallow.
2006-12-08 04:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well on the lighter side of things as long as you and her are monagamous then you don't have to worry about all of those terrible diseases out there, however you may be missing out on learning new styles or techinques. Stay with as long as you can, there is nothing wrong with being with only one person. But like you said you are young i am sure that your brain is gonna want something new eventually
2006-12-08 04:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its fine. you shouldnt let it bother you that she has had more than you. even though she has, does not mean that she is not just as satisfied with you herself. as long as you make each other happy, i think thats the most important thing. thats what its all about, making her happy. would you want to lose the best thing that ever happened to you only because you think your weiner needs to explore somewhere else. and hey, you could catch an STD along the way and ruin your chances with this girl for the rest of your life.
2006-12-08 04:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋