2006-12-08 03:52:01 · 35 answers · asked by Nene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, Nene. I'd say your bf is building up to the butt whoopin' he wants to give you. The thing of it is, it's something that hasn't let him go all the way as of yet. He could be afraid that if he hits you your going to leave him so he's threating you to see how far you'll let that go. Guess what? One of these days he's going to knock fire from your ***. Then if you respond in a submissive manner then he's going to contiune doing it from then on out. If you don't respond in the way he expects he will then promise to never do it again and tell you he's sorry and all that good stuff. He may even by you a little small gift like flowers, a teddybear or something he knows you'll like. Guess what? That's just the beginning cause everytime the beatings are going to get worse. Check his butt while you can and tell him you keep threatin' to hit me, but the day you do that's the day you'll regret. Only thing is when you tell him this don't you yell at him say it just as calm as you possibly can. Then let him continue to talk. You got to give him something to think about. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-12-08 06:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is. Those are signs that he can not control his temper. When a man can not control his temper, you are at great risk. He may not have hit you (YET) because you are in a fairly new relationship or because you have not done any thing, in his mind, to trigger his violence. I think that even if he doesn't hit you the yelling and the threats are a form of abuse because it is affecting you emotionally. I don't think that you deserve to be with some1 that treats you like that. You are worth more than that. You need to evaluate your relationship because I can not tell you what to do, but I can ask you to see if it's worth it to be in an abusive relationship. It's hard to walk away from some1 you love, but it's harder to get yourself back after some1 you love has stripped away your very being- your self respect, your ability to trust, and love again.
2006-12-08 04:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes and you should get out of this relationship asap! Right now, the yelling and the threats are considered emotional abuse, but if he is threatening to hit you...you should take him seriously and get help now before you end up in the emergency room or worse. Don't stay in an abusive relationship...you deserve better.
2006-12-08 04:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my "heck yea"I lived in an abbusive realationship and beleive me it's best you get out now.."PLEASE"remember you aren't a animal of any sort.If he makes threats that's the first sign beleive me he will soon follow through.If a man does not respect you as a queen then you must decide if you want to be treated as a nothing or a sombody.I have learned after 25 years of madness (husbands abuse)I made the decission to finally wake up and get out before I wouln't make it out.
2006-12-08 03:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have been there this is just the start he is testing you to see if you will listen when he makes the threats and the day will come when he feels the threats aren't enough and end up physically abusing you.... He doesn't love or respect you if he is doing this and you need to run before he ends up doing something serious to you.... Run now and save yourself the heartache and pain of having to think up stories to cover the abuse...
2006-12-08 03:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. This is verbal and mental abuse. It is grounds for legal action. However in order for that to stand in court, it is necessary to have several witnesses. Also this form of violence can and often does move to being hit and slapped around fairly quickly.
If I were you, I would end this so called relationship with him, and if he keeps on coming around you, then a restraining order will be necessary.
2006-12-08 04:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, these aren't signs, they definitely are ACTS of domestic violence.
I married a man who threatened and I told him "Not so!"
One day he slapped me because I did not want to go out in the sweltering summer heat. I left his sorry b***.
End of text!
Don't wait for him to carry out his threats - and he will - get rid of him and away from him - far away! He is just a little boy in a big body; not ready for a mature relationship. Don't tell yourself you're in love with him and cannot leave; one day you will regret it sorely.
2006-12-08 04:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him how you feel about him yelling at you and he keep on that is a sign of domestic violence because one day he might really hit u
2006-12-08 03:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by celeste 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes. If somebody threatens to hit you - sooner or later s/he's going to hit you. So get out of the relationship and try to stay away from the guy. Anyone who would threaten to hit their boyfriend or girlfriend is an idiot... Get away.
2006-12-08 03:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Save yourself and get out of this relationship now. Any relationship where one person is threatened with violence shouldn't be allowed to continue.
2006-12-08 03:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋