My wife's personal trainer?

Question

My wife came home from the gym last week and basically attacked me. We had some of the best sex ever. I joked with her saying, what has gotten in to you? She laughed it off saying, "I can't tell you...you'll be jealous." Well, I could tell that it was one of those deals where she really wanted to tell me, so I persisted a bit. Smiling, she said, "You wanted to know. Don't be mad." She then proceeded to tell me that a black guy at her gym, who is a personal trainer, kept approaching her, flirting, and asking to train her. She said that it was just a naughty turn-on and did not mean anything negative toward me at all. She said she is a faithful women and would never cheat on me. She said that he just had a perfect body and, if she were single, she would "do" him. I wasn't mad. In fact, I enjoyed the benefits, sexually. Later, when i asked if she would like to try a big black dildo, she put her pillow over her face and sheepishly said, "Ok!" Is this harmless fun or a slippery slope?

Answer 1

I'm going to say harmless fun. Be thankful that she's exploring her fantasies with you, and not someone else. It's good that you have this kind of open communication with your wife. Be grateful! Have fun!

Answer 2

It is the edge of a slippery slope... isn't the view grand?

As long as you are both clear on where the bounderies are and you both agree to follow them and you both live up to your agreements, then you could end up having the best time of your lives. If you don't, then you could slip right off this slope. Remember, talk *before* and get all the details figured out. Is it okay if he trains her? She might "interpret" you as saying it is. Is it okay if he says this or that or the other while training? How about touches here or there? How about....

Answer 3

harmless fun. If you do nothing and get mad about it she will end up doing stuff like that. But try to say something about a women that you think is hot. Don't get to carried away just enough to see what she will do. The dildo thing is fine My wife has like 30 of them and it makes stuff more interesting. That all. At least she is keeping you in the loop and not shutting you down.

Answer 4

I'd say go for it...she did tell you about the flirtation...and she wants to be more adventerous with YOU in the bedroom. I'd say this is harmless fun. It makes anyone feel good about themselves when someone flirts with them.

I'd just add that it sounds like she's making an effort to stay in good shape and you should do the same (which you may already do), but try to keep up with the romance side of things and flirting with her yourself. When things kind of cool off at home is when people start to stray it seems. But I say have fun!!!

Answer 5

I would say slippery slope man! i think that is the first step to cheating. she has already thought about it, because that is why she came home a wore you out! thats a tough situation.

Answer 6

Well as long as she is getting "it" from you, then things might be ok. But the first time she shrugs you off, then she did the booty bump with the black guy. Could be treading on thin ice with this. Good luck.

Answer 7

As long as you both agree,whagoes on behind closed doors,is no pne elses business,and variety is the spice of life,so ENJOY it,

Answer 8

well he prolly flirted with her like that to get the commission for one. and now u need to watch her with the if he was single she would do him things. but hey if u have any doubts then go check it out.

Answer 9

Why is it necessary to state that he is Black? Why does it matter? I do think that you should be concerned about how far your wife's flirting leads.

Answer 10

Harmless fun, just make sure it stops there.