what if you met the girl of your dreams...she's beautiful, smart, intelligent and down to earth. She has a good job and is fairly independent. she just seems to complete you but she has 3 kids (beautiful kids I might add) but you do not have kids. Would you still pursue this relationship? Or would you back off and search for someone with less of a family commitment. Please give a reason for your answer.
2006-12-08 03:40:21 · 11 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm the girl in this situation
2006-12-08 03:42:25 · update #1
Yes, if I loved her I would take her and the kids anytime. Better to have love and a family, then no love at all. If it was the other way where he had kids , would you still want him?. If he loves you, he will love your kids.
2006-12-08 03:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on several factors. How old is he? If he is still in his 20s, I'd think that would be much harder to accept. Three kids=a lot of responsibility and not much freedom to do things together with you. Also, does he want his own kids and if so, are you willing to have more? How involved are your kids' dad and does this pose a problem for your boyfriend?
I met the guy of my dreams--he is 39 and has no kids and does not care if he ever has any. I have three kids--two teens still at home. He said this doesn't bother him at all; in fact he enjoys them. I make sure at least once a week we do something without the girls, but most of the time he comes to my house for dinner or just to hang out. He told me that he has dated quite a bit and has found that women with kids tend to be more generous and compassionate : )
2006-12-08 03:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scarily this sounds like the situation my ex is having right now.... he's fallen for a girl with 3 kids and he's not sure he wants that much commitment seeing as he's not that old.
You wouldn't happen to live in Palm Harbor, FL and know a guy by the name of Jason would you?? haha
2006-12-08 03:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you feel the same way about how much you guys love each other, than kids shouldn't come between your decisions. If you love her than you love anything apart of her which are her kids. If you think you can make the relationship work than go for it.You can always have kids of your own.
2006-12-08 03:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Miah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying totally. It a big step to take. If there is something there between the two of yous then why not go for it. There's nothing to hurt if you want to try it. get to know her first then I suggest meeting the kid's . Take things slow untill you feel confortable and you should be fine. Good luck with your dision....
2006-12-08 03:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are a lot of men out there that would accept you and everything about you...I have a few friends that is in the same scenerio as yours...and the men accept whole hearted everything about my friend...She has three great kids and he loves them just as he loves her...Gosh atleast that is what she tells me...I hope she's not lyin...LOL
2006-12-08 03:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love children? If so then go for it. What is wrong with marrying into a family?
Get to know his children and if you like children and already love him, you will love his children too. Just make sure that you treat them as if they were yours. Do not distance yourself from them, because that will make your life and theirs very difficult.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-08 03:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant u be with her bc she has 3 kids? it dont make her less of who she is. less of who u like, so why let this detour u. i mean u can still have ur own kids with her. ultimatly its not up to us. u need to figure out if u can do this. or not
2006-12-08 03:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sell your self short maybe he likes the whole package and yes as long as you were upfront he knows kids came with the deal so enjoy finding someone who can accept your children
2006-12-08 03:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, iM A GiRL, BUT iF i WAS iN A SiTUATi0N LiKE THAT, i W0ULD HAVE T0 ACCEPT iT. THE KiDS NEED A DADDY, AND i KN0W iD BE HAPPY T0 FATHER KiDS THAT ARE iN NEED. THEN MAYBE LATER 0N iN THE RELATi0NSHiP, HAVE Y0UR 0WN KiD WiTH HER. =]
2006-12-08 03:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by x0x0sara0x0x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋