How many is too many before marriage?

Question

Before I married I had slept with 26 guys and 3 girls, but I really don't think that's too many. Actually if guys can't have a limit, then neither should girls, that's fair. My husband didn't mind though, he said the past is the past.

Answer 1

Your husbands right! The number doesn't matter, it's the past. At least you're open with him enough to tell him.

Answer 2

Chances are, your husband knew he wasn't the first a long time ago, and may even like the fact that he doesn't have to teach you every little thing when it comes to sexual encounters. If he's happy and your happy - who cares?! I believe the vows were "for better or worse". You're married now and being he wasn't the first at some things, maybe you can make him the first at others - could even be fun! Leave the past in the past. When you said "I do" you started a whole new life with your hubby, so enjoy it and look towards the future!

Answer 3

In my view, it isn't how many people you sleep with that is important. What is important is how many people you sleep with after you get married. Everybody is different. For some people, having sex with anyone before marriage is wrong. For others, having a "little black book" that is the size of the Manhattan phone book is fine. Don't let other people and their dopey opinions govern how you feel about yourself. As long as you think it is okay and your husband doesn't mind, I really don't see how what you did is a problem. I think your husband has the right attitude... What's past is prologue.

Now, as I see it, the real problem is that I didn't meet you before you got married....

Answer 4

Too many is defined by the person you're marrying. The same way you wouldn't marry someone who had too much credit card debt, you might put a limit on how many people you wanted your spouse to have in their past. Whatever the number, once you're married, that's it, the number you had before doesn't matter. (As long as everyone was honest. Lies invalidate any contract.)

Answer 5

If you and your husband are comfortable with it, then don't worry. I think the only person who could possibly have a say in how much is "too much" is the one important person you choose to spend your life with. This is not because they have any right to dictate your life, but because they might not feel comfortable with your "number" enough to stay. So if your husband dismisses it as in the past, don't worry about it. Just focus on the present and future!

Answer 6

As long as you practice safe sex and get tested on a regular basis, i don't think there should be a limit as too how many on sleeps with. As long as both parties are willing participants and no one get's there feelings hurt whatever. Society has a double standard, it's ok for a guy to be with as people as he choses, whereas women can't that bullcrap if you ask me.

Answer 7

26?! damn girl! but there's notoo many or too little. once you find the right one, that's it. he might be number one or one hundred, it doesn't matter. what matters is that he is the one that makes you feel the best out of those 26. and it seems you've found a jewel of a husband. :)

Answer 8

I wish my GF slept with a new guy in her each night, 300 (She would rest 12 into 5 days) guys in a year. She would share those experience to me in bed

Answer 9

Can I be 27?

Answer 10

How many is too many? Who cares?? As long as you stay faithful to your husband, that is fine. And take it in stride, your husband is telling you that he doesn't mind, so why worry about it? Who cares what people say, its none of their business.