Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 months and I cheated on him with his brother when he was at work can some one help me?
2006-12-08 03:35:46 · 18 answers · asked by IceAngel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I'm a worthless whore. Please dump me for someone you deserve. Also, here's all the money you spent on me."
2006-12-08 03:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how you break that kind of news. He's going to be angry no matter what you say.
Sit your boyfriend down and tell him that because you care about him, you need to be honest with him. Then, tell him what happened, and tell him that you understand that he must be angry, and that if he never wants to talk to you again, that it's fine with you. Say that you're sorry, and that you still want to be with him, but that he deserves much better than you and that you can understand if he wants to leave you. The mistake that you made is a huge one, so I'd be expecting the worst if I were you. He's probably not going to want to talk to you for awhile at the very least. That's his right. Give him some space.
Although I don't condone what you did, I congratulate you for wanting to be honest about it. At least you won't be basing your relationship on a lie. In the future, please try to have more self-control and be more careful.
I don't suggest that you just not tell him. His brother's bound to let it spill at some point, and then he'll be even more angry. Get this off of your conscience now.
2006-12-08 11:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ella Minnow Pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ice Angel huh?
NOT GOOD!! Happened to me years ago, in my early twenties (I'm in my early forties now). I was married and we had a 6 month old daughter. I took my younger brother into my home to help him out and while I was working, my wife and brother got drunk and had some fun. It destroyed my marriage, my relationship with my daughter, and my trust in future relationships. After a major blowout with my brother I forgave him but it took years to get past the resentment. At the time I was young and tough with a big ego and could not forgive my wife. I had started a very successful career and 2 days after the incident I blew up at my boss and quit. I sent her home with the baby, cheated on a friends girl, and moved out of state to be with an ex-girlfriend. My point in sharing this is that there is a huge and far reaching ripple effect here. Be careful how you proceed and be prepared to live with your decisions. As I matured, I wished I had handled it differently.
2006-12-08 12:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him that you cheated on him (especially with his brother). I would say this is a dont ask dont tell situation and even if he ask dont tell. Just let him know that you can no longer be together. What you have to worry about is if his brother will tell him.
2006-12-08 11:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by hunny_b07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some how in some way you will have to tell him the best time may be when both of you are calm and having a relativly good day and let him know what happend he may dump you and he may not and if he does stay with you , you are on thin ice nad you will have to gain back his trust in your relationship.
2006-12-08 12:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. If you do you may divide them as brothers forever. Write out your feelings and mail it to yourself - when it arrives do not open the letter - put it someplace very, very safe. Should the brother ever tell your boyfriend, give your SEALED and POSTMARK DATED written feeling to your boyfriend (who by now may be your husband and the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN) and ask his forgiveness. Remember Robert Frost's advise - no tears in the writer, no tears in the reader --- be thoughtful and honest, learn and grow.
2006-12-08 11:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Scotty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices Never tell him or confess all and maybe get his brother killed. It's entirely up to you. You really sound like a sorry ***** though so I bet you will tell him. Kisses Betty
2006-12-08 11:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with him. You obviously do not love him. You would be wise to not attempt to have a relationship with his brother. That would just hurt him that much more and could destroy the relationship that he has with his brother.
I would suggest that you break up with him and not tell him about your indiscretion.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-08 11:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell him you don't deserve him and that he should go and find a woman who will respect him. Also, you might consider going to a nunnery and learning to control yourself.
70+ years of abstinence might prevent you from fouling up our culture for a bit.
2006-12-08 11:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Solaris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gosh not only did you have sex with your bf's brother, your still with your bf...''umm just seeing the bigger picture here'', you have to break it off with your bf for starters...cause you just ruined any long term future with your bf and his family.
I truly feel sorry for you, its never to late to turn your life around...love yourself first, than you can commit and love another.
Good Luck
2006-12-08 11:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
break it off, if you tell him, you will always look bad, that is blood for christ sake! Next time keep your legs closed you s..t!
2006-12-08 11:39:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋