The situation is this: My mother forced me 2 marry a girl that I never knew or met before the wedding day. I was supposed 2 stay married 2 her 4 only until I received my greencard. Then I was supposed 2 divorce her and marry someone else my mother had picked out. Well, I feel in love with this woman and decided I am not going 2 ever leave her. I told her the truth about everything my mother and I had planned, and after much heated words, we finally made up and stuck together. Well, my mother was not happy about this. We moved out of her house right away, but many of our things were in her house. When she wasn't home one day I went there and retrieved some one my personal belongings. Because I didn't have permission 2 enter the house, I was arrested and then eventually convicted of a felony 4 residential burglary. My mother would only drop the charges if I got a divorce, which I didn't want 2 do. So, now I have this on my record forever. I haven't seen my mother since then (+10 years).
2006-12-08 03:32:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother may have given birth to me, but she abandoned me when she divorced my father when I was barely walking. She remarried and then had other kids. I was left with my father and never seen again. She only just contacted me when she realized her two children were too Westernized to care for her in her old age, and then she thought of me. I was in another country and had craved a mother all my life. When she suddenly showed up wanting me to marry some girl and come to the US to be with her I could not resist. Only after being married I felt it would be wrong to hurt this innocent girl that way and so I told her everything and we have been together ever since (+10 years). I have never really known my mother because she moved out of the country with her second husband, and again with her third. I tried to contact her a few times in the 10 years, but she never replied. She sent back mail unopened also. If she could clear my record I think I may reconcile with her.
2006-12-08 04:09:46 · update #1
Only you can answer this one mate. The one question I would ask you though, is what do you hope to achieve from being part of her life again? If you and your wife are still together, you have a family already.
2006-12-08 03:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by sjc_three 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mother sounds very controlling and she wants what she wants. Do you miss your relationship with her. If not, don't bother. If you think she will accept your wife and your wishes, you can try and talk to her, but I would have a hard time forgiving my mother for having me arrested for taking MY OWN stuff. That's not love! You have a record because of your mothers stubborness, not fair at all. She was willing to put you thru hell for this.. I say bye bye for ever.
2006-12-08 03:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your mom has some real issues of control. I would let the past be the past and try to move on from the hurt and anger you have against her, not for her but for yourself. Life is so short to hold grudges and one day your mom will pass(we all do) and then you will have to deal with regrets and confusion. I know from experience. Let this go and let her know that you love her but that she can not and will not control your life anymore. For your own well being just let the past go and make amends before it is too late.
2006-12-08 03:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I would start out slow. Call her up to see how she is, but dont get to close. Even though she's your mother, and she brought you into this world and blah blah blah... it, under NO circumstances, gives her the right to treat u the way she did. Talk to her, and if she's to proud to admit she was wrong then forget about it.
2006-12-08 03:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably lost more than you did from that. You need to let go of those types of feelings for your own sake so if forgiving her helps you move on then do it. For her sake however, I wouldn't worry.
2006-12-08 03:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably talk to her again, but keep her out of my personal life. I'd have sort of a superficial relationship with her until she offered some sort of apology.
2006-12-08 03:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my mother pulled a stunt like that, she can contact me and would know she better apologize profusely and hope like hell that I do forgive her.
2006-12-08 03:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I'd disown her. You have no mother.
Living well is the best revenge. Go have a wonderful life with your new wife.
2006-12-08 03:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by steve d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt forgive her she is a *****
ok well i probably would but yeah if you do forgive dont foget
2006-12-08 03:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God forgives us everyday for everything we do wrong, so I would forgive her for sure.
2006-12-08 04:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by star:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋