I HAVE RECENTLY BROKEN UP WITH A MAN I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR 8 YRS. HE WAS MENTALLY ABUSIVE THROUGHOUT OUR RELASTIONSHIP. AND I REALLY HAVE A LOT OF HATRED TOWARDS HIM. WELL I HAVE BEGAN TALKING WITH THIS GUY FROM HIGHSCHOOL THAT I DATED THROUGH OUT THE 4 YEARS I WAS THERE HE BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE I WAS STUBBORN AND SELFISH AND NOW I HAVE CHANGED (SOME). HE WORSHIPED THE GROUND I WALKED ON AND GAVE ME EVERYTHING I EVERWANTED AND PERIODICALLY HAS CALLED ME THROUGHOUT THE 13 YEARS THAT WE HAVENT SEEN EACH OTHER. HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR ME. WELL THE GUY THAT I WAS DATING FOR THE LAST EIGHT YEARS IS STILL TRYING TO GET BACK WITH ME AND HE IS CRAZY THREATING ME AND STALKING ME ALL THE TIME. AND SOME HOW I FEEL BAD FOR TRYING TO MOVE ON WHATS WRONG WITH ME?
2006-12-08 03:31:46 · 4 answers · asked by littlereddragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i broke up with the abusive one 9 months ago.
2006-12-08 03:41:07 · update #1
nothing is wrong with you --- ignore the abusive one and see if your old flame is still as good a person
2006-12-08 03:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way, because you spent a lot of your life with this guy and got use to the situation you were in, but like you said, you were not happy in that relationship and you should not let your ex guilt you back into a relationship. If it is not want you want it is not what you want. You have to think about yourself. Lets say you do get back with your ex, what are the odds that things will be different? Slim to none. It might be different as first, but I am almost sure things would go back to the way they were.
Take a chance and move on with your life, either this old BF or maybe even somebody totally new could come into your life, and you can then feel the happiness that you want.
Its ok to feel bad or even sad about losing a part of your past, but you have so much to look forward to, and until you try and see what else is out there, you will never know how good it could be.
2006-12-08 03:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this, if he was abusive in any form you should know he doesn't love you. And don't feel bad for him, because he's the one driving you psyco, he's bad news for you. If you can pull up enough courage to confront him, tell him that he should leave you alone and stop stalking you, whatever the hell he thinks he feels for you, isn't real, because being able to love is also about being able to let go. And if that doesn't work get a restraining order or travel in company and in big crowds.
2006-12-08 03:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i get everything right... it seems that your libido is still attached to your last boyfriend, even if you think you hate him (and there's only one step between love and hatred) you're still tied together on some energetic level, i mean 8 YEARS just disappear. so give it time, try to see more of other people, and you'll get to back normal
2006-12-08 03:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by masha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋