I spend a lot of time talking to her about moving home and letting me find her a husband. However, sadly she will not heard of it. I just want her to be happy.Her current boyfriend is a Arabic guy and he is so controling. Before I could talk to 5 or 6 hours a day now I down to only 4 or 5 call with max of 90 minutes.
He talking my little girl away.
2006-12-08 03:22:54 · 17 answers · asked by francesgjoyner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am find MUM.
I call as much as I can.
He is a GREAT GUY MUM .... let it go.
I am not depress and stop telling people that!
2006-12-08 03:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your "little girl" is a full grown woman. Perhaps you are the one with the problem. Who's really the depressed one? Could it be the mother?
Get realistic, Mom. You are preventing your daughter from having a normal life by keeping her on the phone so much. How in the world do you expect her to have any semblance of a normal life if she's on the phone all day? AS for her current boyfriend, I think he's being too liberal. You have more of her company during her waking hours, than he.
The real problem is this situation is you. YOU need to go out and find a life of your own. Your daughter needs to cut your apron strings. You need to find something besides running your daughter's life, to occupy your time. Go out and find some worthy cause, other than your daughter, to champion. Volunteer at your local senior citizens center, homeless shelter, hospital or some other worthy cause.
Your problem is that You Want To Be Needed. Well. Dear One, you Are needed. You are needed by many people less fortunate than yourself. You would find that when you come into a room you would be greeted by smiles of friendship.
Try it. You'll like it! :-) I speak from experience.
2006-12-08 03:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by lothespiritalker 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No wonder she is not married, sounds to me like she has gone from a controlling overbearing mother to an overbearing controlling boyfriend. Okay so my mother lives across the streeet from me, sometimes I can go several days without talking to her. I am a big girl and I don't need my mommy to hold my hand everyday and she know that. I think that it is more normal to not talk to your mother for several days than it is to talk to her for five hours a day. What guy in his right mind would want to marry into that situation? It would be worse than have Marie Berone as your mother-in-law (Everybody Loves Raymond).
Back off lady and let you daughter grow up.
2006-12-08 03:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is not a little girl anymore. She needs to see that she has to be in control of her own life and be more independent. Until she does, she will always be attracted to the controlling type. Give her more encouragement to be more assertive with her life. She may have low self esteem which will attract this sort of partner. And.. Arabic guys are just like that and think women are not worth anything. Go get her, talk some sense into her and get her away from him.
2006-12-08 03:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm 30 and single, never been married and I've got 5 kids.
I broke up with my controlling boyfriend of 7 years and am now trying to make it as a truly single parent.
It is depressing, I went through the same thing, but I also know that wanting to get married so badly isn't going to get you happiness. She needs to think about the things that are really important and what makes her happy without the ring on her finger.
Tell her not to settle, because that is just going to make it worse.
Some day I will find the right one that will be worth the wait, and since I didn't save my virginity for him, at least he can be the one and only guy I promise to love for the rest of my life.
It's better to be single and never married at 30 than divorced a year later for choosing the wrong guy.
2006-12-08 03:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your little girl isn't a little girl anymore. I hve a 21 yr old daughter that has been married for two years now, so I know what it feels like for them to grow up and make a life of their own. It is also hard to let them make their own life decisions, but it is something that every parent has to let a child do eventually. If you don't let her go and make her own decisions without you trying to control her, she is going to do it without talking to you about it and her decisions will be more irrational. Let her be the adult she has grown into. Don't forget what it felt like when you were an adult and your parents tried to control you. It will only make her rebel against you if you try to control her.
Another thing about her "controlling boyfriend". Could it be possible that she accepts his controlling ways because that is what she is used to dealing with? It sounds like you are trying to control her too.
2006-12-08 03:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nuts 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it is momma rather than daughter who's unhappy. Yes, men of Arabic background tend to be more controlling; it's their upbringing. It may not be all that bad; don't judge him until you've gotten to know him. And - well, if he's taking her away, she is an adult after all, and it is her choice. Yes, I'd prefer my daughters date and marry men of their own race and culture, but it isn't my choice to make. Yes, it is hard - very hard - but let her make her own choice, mamma. That's the way nature, or God, if you prefer, intended it.
2006-12-08 03:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel the say way... I'm bummed out that I'm 32 and don't even have a girlfriend... I know she is out there and I will soon meet her...
She should lose that guy...I've known a few women with Arabic guys and they treat their women like crap...you just have to see their culture...women are worthless... Anyway, I strongly suggest you try to talk some sense into her...
Tell her not to be bummed out not being married at 30...I know what it feels like, but its worth waiting for the right one...don't let her settle...
Tell her to get out there and have fun, start dating and hanging out with friends...it will happen before she even notices!!!
Good luck!!!!
2006-12-08 03:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's no wonder a lot of Arabic women stay away from Arabic men once they come to America
---Just being real
2006-12-08 03:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. You talk to your daughter too much. 90 minutes a day is a long time, and I'm surprised he doesn't get more irritated about it.
2. Her expiration date is going to pass soon. Women's looks start going downhill fast after the late 20s; she should feel lucky she even found a guy.
2006-12-08 03:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
She's a big girl now... you need to let her live and learn in her own time. Be there for her when she needs you of course, but she needs to make these decisions for herself.
2006-12-08 03:31:43 · answer #11 · answered by Quagmire 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋