hes says he's never really been a affeciate person ,we never kiss really ,hug or even cuddle .is he ever gonna change ?
2006-12-08 03:19:46 · 26 answers · asked by mitsy906 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will change with the "right" gal. Then he will want to express his emotions through all kinds of physical contact.
It sounds like he's very lukewarm about your relationship and is not as serious about it as he should. He's already making excuses for not fully giving his heart to you.
Please reconsider your relationship with him, or get counseling.
2006-12-08 03:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience with a guy like that, hex no! I take it as a sign of immaturity, because grown-ups do grown-up things, kissing/affection being one of them...and he and I have three kids together! So I've found that being treated like that is emotionally draining and lowers your morale, and that is a big reason why I have recently seperated from him after 10 yrs. I never had a problem with guys desiring me in the past, and I don't predict that I can't find a guy that at least wants to be affectionate towards me now. Even at that, I have wasted 10 years of my life with a man that didn't have a clue about how to make me feel special. He was a good partner financially, a good dad, but romantically shallow. So either you love him as he is, or get out early so you can find someone to suit your needs. Yes I will admit, this is a totally biased opinion!LOL Good luck!
2006-12-08 11:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by breadbreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be with an affectionate person?
Can you imagine marrying someone who will never kiss you, hug you and cuddle in front of a fireplace.
Trust me there are plenty of boys out there who would be more than willing to be close to you - including full-mouth kissing! : )
The sooner you realize that this guy is not going to change and for some freakish reason isn't totally infatuated with a fabulous girl....
The sooner you can get out there and start making out with more affectionate men.
2006-12-08 11:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Leading Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you give him good sex? Cause if you do, you could be the one holding the whip, rather than getting whipped yourself. People can change under the right circumstances, I changed, I'm pretty sure he can change too. Try giving him a lot of space, sooner or later he'll miss the feeling of having you in his arms and he'll be all over you. And as for the cuddling, taunt him, tell him he has to cuddle you for one hour if he wants any sex (that's how the good at sex thing comes in handy).
2006-12-08 11:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On Dr. Phil yesterday or the day before ther was a girl that was disgusted with affection. He told her that it could be from her parents not being real affectionate with her growing up. There is a way to get passed that and change. Look into it.
2006-12-08 11:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, non-affectionate people have a much harder time opening up. Instead of rushing to kiss him, let him be the one to kiss he'll eventually kiss you and cuddle etc.. When he's ready.
2006-12-08 11:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Miah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's been hurt in the past, so he's not affectionate with anyone now. It may not even be a ex-girlfriend, maybe he doesn't have a close relationship with anyone so its better to shut yourself off from people. I don't know, he may come out of it, he may not. Just decide if this is something you can deal with and if you still want to be with him.
2006-12-08 11:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just weird...People can change, but I wouldnt hold my breath. This guy sounds like a cold fish, do you really want to be with someone like that? If the answer is no then you know what to do. If the answer is yes, I wish you luck , and I hope he can change for your sake
2006-12-08 11:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that they are a horrible kisser. This guy has a huge crush on me and he was equally hot. when we were at his house he was all over me. i wanted to kiss him but he pulled away. i thought it was my breath so everytime i saw him i would gargle (lol) i made sure my lips were soft and all that. then finally when i tried to kiss him he turned away again! so i yelled and said "what is your problem, it cant be me" and he told me that he doesnt know how to kiss and he is a bad kisser. when i conviced him to do it anyway....turns out he was right! so i tried to teach him and not that he is comfortable, he kisses me all the time. too bad i dumped cause i thought he was boring!!!! LMAO ironic huh?
2006-12-08 11:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Boyfriend has some issues.....he won't change and a relationship without emotion and affection is not worth it.
2006-12-08 11:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋