i have deep dark complexion.people often ogle at me .so i feel shy to attend public gatherings.plz suggest.?

Answer 1

I agree with blackbeauty. It is a complex issue. I know lotsa light skinned people who are the same way. Your demeanor in such situations will go a long way! If you come across as sweet and harmless, but not foolish, it will change some people's perceptions.

Answer 2

It would have helped if you were a bit more specific about the kind of suggestions you are expecting.
If it is about making you fairer, let me tell you that the fairness creams widely advertised don't really make you any fairer than you are. Maybe they add some glow to dark complexions and that too temporarily, for which you may appear a shade fairer than you are for a short time. Perhaps there are very expensive pigment grafting techniques (I'm not sure if that's the correct term, but I hope you get the idea). The end result is debatable though, even if you can afford the exorbitant expenses. I think Michael Jackson did it and in my opinion his face resembles that of a corpse.
The best thing for you would be to ignore stares and behave as normally as possible. After a while people would stop staring altogether. I know it is difficult. But you have to collect yourself and appear confident. And also put up a cheerful face. A smiling face almost invariably makes anyone look attractive. Exercise some care in choosing the colours of your dress. Except white, don't choose shades which contrast with your complexion. Don't choose very loud colours either. Muted shades in plain, checks or stripes are best for you.

Answer 3

I've a really good suggestion for you. Smear toothpaste all over your face before you step out. Heh heh! Just kidding. What's wrong with you bro? Are you saying you don't like being ogled at? Or perhaps you meant to say that you get stared at (which can be equally good for your ego). "Fair is beautiful" is a stupid old notion that belongs in centuries gone by. And by the way, ask any socially successful man and he'll tell you the same thing - no matter what your skin color is, if you can make a girl laugh, she'll want you.

Answer 4

If this issue is really affecting your ability to appear in public, then maybe you need to talk things over with a professional therapist. You shouldn't be uncomfortable to be among people, and a good therapist can help you with strategies to overcome your discomfort.

But if that's not an option for some reason, then take a moment before you go out anywhere to remind yourself that you are the person that God created you to be -- a wonderful dark-complected person who is happy to be just who you are. If people ogle you, then take that as a compliment and hold your head up proudly!

Whatever your size, color, gender, etc. -- you're God's work of art, and don't you forget it! :-)

Answer 5

Don't worry about what other people think. You do what you want and be happy with what God gave you. I used to feel awkward because of some of my own features when I was a teen, but now as an adult, I feel blessed to be healthy and I don't worry about my imperfections. So take charge and don't worry about imperfections or the public. You'll never live your life if you hide from the world. Live to the extreme, remember we only have one life to live.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

I have kind of the same problem.I don't have a dark complexion,but I stand out in a crowd.I'm 6'6" with natural platinum blond hair.Anytime I went somewhere I would see people staring at me. At first this made me self aware and made me want to just crawl into a corner and hide. Then I realized people were curious, was that my real hair color, just how tall are you,people never forget me. So accept it that you have have something other people wish they have.I'm sure people never forget you either.Learn to use it to your advantage.Once your comfortable with it you'll carry youself much better and be happier.

Answer 7

Are you serious? I'm white and have never gone out with anyone of any light complexion - black is so, so sexy! Get out there and show it off! Yes, I would ogle you if I saw you - because its so unique and beautiful to see someone like that around here!

Answer 8

Tall dark and hanndsome!! you must have heard of it. Consider your complexion as an asset, its god gifted. Just go out with positive attitude and let people actually appreciate your personality in totality.

P.S. Some good news, research shows that dark skinned people can't get skin cancer ever!!!

Answer 9

Get over your low self esteem!! I'm mixed with black and Indian so I'm probably darker than you. I get stared at a lot, but that's because i make it look good. Just ignore them, keep your head up, smile at people when they look at you. It confuses them.

BlackCurry

Answer 10

God has blessed you with a unique complexion. Do not be ashamed of it. Your pure soul will speak out your true beauty