2006-12-08 03:08:24 · 50 answers · asked by BUCANE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get down on your knees and thank God that you have found a woman that at least has some morals.
You will appreciate here more and more as time goes by, even though it seems difficult right now.
Respect her wishes, get married and have a loooong life together.
Peace and Good Luck!
2006-12-08 03:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long you have to wait before the wedding or the honeymoon. If it's no more than a few weeks (2 or 3) you'll just have to do with out, but if it's for a couple of months, you better put your foot down and tell her that she should not be able to make you wait that long to have sex. If she refuses, then you can have a liitle revenge by taking away her simple pleasures (orgasim by anything that isn't her hand) and get her hot everyday so she can't resist by the time masturbating is boring. And then there's the make-up sex game (basic rules, get in a fight, have sex, and talk it over).
2006-12-08 03:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to the people telling you to "respect" her. She's about to become your WIFE for God's Sake! What kind of wife uses sex as a weapon against her husband? Not a very good one that is for sure. You are indeed about to get played. Pwned even.
There is also a high probability she is cheating on you. This has been the case every time I have seen this kind of behaviour, no matter what state of alleged upcoming marital bliss the couple were in. Drop her NOW, and if possible find out who she has been cheating with, how many times and with how many guys.
I really feel sorry for you because you seem like a decent guy. And it looks like you have invested a lot of emotions in this woman. But dude, the extent of her caring for you is how much money she can extract from you.
Don't worry, it happens to the best of us. But save yourself. Save yourself NOW.
2006-12-08 03:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by Solaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is probably just trying to get the sparks back in the relationship and is trying to make your wedding night a special one. Its not uncommon for one or both fiances to request that. I think you should honor her request and hold out until the wedding night. I know its hard but it will be worth it. Not trying to sound corny or anything here but your fiance may also want you to work for it a bit, if you know what I mean...be charming...send her flowers for no reasons...be a romantic
2006-12-08 03:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been having sex and she just cut you off? Sound like she has decided to force you to make a decision. If you want her marry her If you don't move on. That's simple enough to figure out. Kisses Betty.
2006-12-08 03:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you will respect her wishes. Before women get married we do strange things. We are stressed and hormonal, but by all means don't tell her that's what she's going through she will be offended. My husband and I lived together before we got married and I started acting strange too. I didn't stay with him the night before the wedding, it didn't seem right LOL. But he respected my wishes and that just showed me he loved me more than I thought. And the wedding night was amazing just as was our marriage. Maybe you can talk her into moving the wedding up-LOL.
2006-12-08 03:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by askywalkersmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee did the right thing and I bet you will like her ten times now and you feel she is more desirable...
Your fiancee maybe wants to focus not just physical aspects of a relationship. It will both help of you to evaluate your own feelings for the woman and your readiness for a future husband and father. And maybe she is also evaluating herself....
Be patient and if you love her, you will respect her decision..
Relationship isn't just about physical thing. Try to do the things you both enjoy together except sex...give her flowers from time to time and treat her to a fancy restaurant...Be romantic...I have a feeling she will like it...Just spend time quality time with you....
She will be your future wife soon.... Your wait will be worth it...
Congrats!!!
2006-12-08 03:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mai L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that. but just by the fact that she doesn't want to anymore, well it ain't the end of the world. be ok about it and respect her wishes. after all you are gettin married. perhaps in her mind this time apart will make the wedding night more special for her. so I hope you do your best to make it just that for her too.
2006-12-08 03:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by lawtation777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
@ X - Nice advice..... [note sarcasm]
If she doesn't want to have sex until after you're married you have to respect her decision. Especially if you love her enough to get married. If you try to pressure her, she might think that you just want to be with her for sex.
Side note, I like how immature people can pass judgment on people they don't even know. If he thought she was gay, I don't think he'd consider marrying her.
2006-12-08 03:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Spread love like violence. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite possible that she is trying to do a form of "cleansing" before her faith. Couples who renew their commitment to God (Christians), if they partook in fornication before, cease to do so for purposes of being renewed spiritually for a pending marriage.
You gave us little information; you know your fiance best. Have a talk with her and see if this is perhaps the reasoning she is using. This is not a bad thing. It means that she wants to present herself to you, by abstinence, not literally, but symbolically virgin to you for marriage. I am hoping that this is her reason, because that means that she is still true to you and not pulling away from your relationship.
Please consider my perspective on this.
2006-12-08 03:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋