My brother has just broken up with his girlfriend and she is 2 monthes and some days pregnant. My mom thinks that it is wrong and that she hopes that he doesn't turrn out like our father who was never around. She said that now it was not about him or his girl friend, it was about the baby........ But i need someone to give me some words of advice for him cause i don't want him to make a big mistake..
2006-12-08 03:08:13 · 20 answers · asked by Lordes D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My brother's girl is pregant but i don't think that it is his. My brothers girlfrien is what you whould call a H**. Not in the sense that she will slep with alot of girls, but that she acks like one in many ways!!!!... Now my brother has excepted this fact,,,,but yesterday, he was talking with this guy and the guy didn't know who he was-- being the girls boyfriend-- He told him that he just found out that his girlfriend was pregnant and when my brother asked what her name was, he gave her name!!!!!!
2006-12-08 03:10:00 · update #1
There were also other reason for him to leave her....some are that she doesn't seem to care about her future... she deches everyday and he his a school boy kind of....the was she acts and he just is tired and dosen't want to really put up with her anymore......and he's acting like the only thing that holding them together is the baby because they don't have a relationship or trust...!!!
2006-12-08 03:14:14 · update #2
Although I think it is not right to leave the girl while she is pregnant, it is also not such a great idea to stay with someone you are unhappy with because she is. If he still plans on being a part of the baby's life and helping the girl when he can, I don't think he has done anything too bad.
2006-12-08 03:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by mandi6006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one is so inclined to thoughts of fleeing while the perverbial bun is in the easy bake oven it may be only natural. It is an enormous trancendence of thought and realization that you have become somehow less free than you once were. Although at the time this freedom passed by unnoticed. Life has taken on an entirely different role. Now of course conventional advice would be that the two fornicators of creation be wed and if not compatible in the slightest sense then doomed to live a life with a sense of sorrow and loss. Loss of innocence and free-will. Now it is completely spineless and cowardly to leave a girl who is belly full of your DNA and without any sort of kindness or assistance. It is immature and cold-hearted to leave without so much as a discussion about the most beneficial outcome for all, including the soon to be gurgling, drooling, and brightening addition to the multitudes. The more mature, thoughtful, and delicate this situation is handled and with love....the better not only for the two adoring parents, the child, but to the whole entire world as well.....
But to each his/her own and I can only watch as the world teaches such harsh lessons over and over.......
2006-12-08 12:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by thatsright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is a good possibility that the lady herself is unsure of the identity of the father.
That is why we have modern medicine and the certainty of D.N.A.
If your brother wants to be clear on this he should do one of two things: insist of an amniotic fluid test that can determine the identity of the father while the baby is still in her. or wait till it is born and do a blood test.
If it's his baby he should take at least some financial responsibility and interest as a father, That is the right thing to do. As for marrying the girl just because she is pregnant may lead to a bitter divorce if they do not love each other. which is far worse. so. Lets find out who is the biological dad and take it from there.
Good luck to you all.
2006-12-08 11:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen guys get trapped and destroy a large part of their life b/c they stayed with the wrong girl b/c they knocked them up. If she's not the right girl then your brother should not be with her but if the baby is his then of course he should be the best dad he can be. If she's not the right girl then it won't do the baby any good to grow up watching an abusive or dysfunctional relationship.
2006-12-08 11:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. first he should have a DNA test done when the baby is born. If he is the father and is responsible for the child, then he doesn't need to be with her. He can see the child and raise it without being with the mother.
2006-12-08 11:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he break up with her? He can still be very much a part of the baby's life without having a relationship with the mother. Sometimes that is for the best.
2006-12-08 11:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Barnish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that the baby is yours, than he should not leave. You want the baby to have a father-figure. That's double the love the baby should get. Please don't make a mistake that other people has made it the past. He could be labeled as a "Deadbeat Dad." Men really don't want that label.
2006-12-08 11:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What`s the reason of his leaving?But, personally your brother must be responsbile for his actions.He should take the consequences.If he is able to support the girl and his own child then they should live together.Love can make things possible to work out right.
2006-12-08 11:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by maconsolviaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing for your brother to do is to be there for this young lady and the baby regardless if he is going to be physically there or not. Neither one of them should want for nothing. His job over the next nine months should be to make sure this young lady has everything she needs because she is carrying his child. Once this child is born, he/she should want for nothing for the rest of their lives regardless of who he is with.
2006-12-08 11:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Curious Georgetta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong if the relationship is unhealthy for the both of them as well as the baby! They both have to realize its not just them anymore....and if they really love each other when the baby is born there feelings should change!!
2006-12-08 11:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by kershanda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋