I looked at my boyfriend phone it went off last night about 11:oo and this morning i was giving it to him letting him know he missed a call last night and he got mad talking about i;m looking through his phone and i'm like i wasn;t but i should and noticed that i's alot of new numbers but he also is a cab driver and he just told me that he wants to marry me a couple days ago so whats the promblem if i was looking im your phone . That;s not necessary i think guys talk to me.
2006-12-08 03:05:42 · 10 answers · asked by shnnn_ivey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are touchy when they feel like someone is snooping around. It is very possible that he is getting calls from the people who need cab rides.
You might want to talk to him about openness. It would be good to let him know that you do not mind if he looks at your cell phone and you at his.
A relationship is built on trust and without trust it will fail. It would be a bad idea to start checking up on his calls. It would be a good idea to talk to him about trust and make sure that you do not have secrets from each other.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-08 03:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows a lack of trust that worries him- that you think enough to get angry at him over an unknown number. I have many "wrong" numbers on my phone. That's not to say you shouldn't be open to the fact that some girl could be calling him, and that is okay for you to think if there are more suspicions- if he answers and has late night talks, or you see a repeated phone number (if by change you are checking his number) there could be a reason for something being up.
But don't count out he may haave friends, or friends switching phone numbers, or like you said people from his work may call. Just keep an open mind but don't blame him for his phone having all kinds of numbers. In fact mine will often have 8-9 from creditors, doctor, vet, dental center, work numbers- all of them different and not always programmed into the phone.
2006-12-08 03:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by mrjohntesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not trust your man? Why do you find the need to look through his phone? That's saying you have some deep seeded trust issue with him. If you really plan on marrying this man you need to trust him. Do you think he would ask you marry him (if he's serious about it) if he's cheating on you? Right now he can cheat and owe you nothing unlike if you're married. However to make yourself feel better without yelling at him or causing a fight approach him about him getting upset about the phone. Explain to him that you really don't understand why he got so upset about the phone after all he did ask you to marry him so you shouldn't really have any secrets. You have to keep in mind in order to get the answers that you want you have to ask not accuse. You have to be pleasant not have attitude. Don't approach him with an attitude or not only will you not be marrying this man you may not have the man. You have to express how you feel about the phone issue and how he made you feel without sounding like a victim and him out to be completely wrong. Start out with apologizing for advising him about the missed phone call because it made him think you were spying on him. Follow it up with that I wasn't spying on you, I have no reason not to trust you. Then say something like us being a couple I don't see where there should or would be a problem if we looked in one another's phones or even answered them. Tell him you have nothing to hide and because he's asked you to marry him you'd expect him to answer your phone and visa versa. Then ask what about my answering your phone or looking through your phone bothers you? Give him time to answer. Then end it with ok, I'm sorry I didn't know you felt that way or would feel that way. I will never let it happen again. This way you make him out to be the bad guy for getting angry over something this silly. Then wait an hour or so and just out of the blue ask him if he loves you, if he says yes then ask him why. Once he answers ask is that why you want to marry me. Then say ok. He may turn around and ask you the same questions so be ready with your answers. You have to know what is on his mind and why he's so protective of his phone so you need to ask questions to get to those answers without yelling and screaming. Ask simple questions that shouldn't take much thought and that he should be able to answer without hesitation.
2006-12-08 03:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was mad because you briefly looked at his phone - he is trying to hide something....don't just look at the numbers do a search of them online. If you type in recerse phone search you should be able to pull up some free search pages. I would not only stop there I would also call some of the numbers back. I know alot of people are going to disagree with me here and say I am invaiding his privacy or whatever but if you are thinking about marrying this guy you need to know what your getting yourself into.
2006-12-08 03:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He got angry because you've invaded his personal space and ultimately inferred that you don't trust him.
That may not have been your intention but that's what it looks like to me. I had an ex that used to do that and quiz me over numbers or ask "Who's Caroline?!!" only to hear "Your sister" in reply. It makes you look paranoid and him feel interrogated.
Let him have some things that are just his, just because he wants to marry you and spend the rest of his life with you, that doesn't mean you should share everything and have unlimited access to his personal data. He may well have nothing to hide but snooping won't endear you to him.
2006-12-08 03:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm yeah i would be looking through his phone if i got a reaction like that dont marry this guy til you know whats up and until you are sure and asking him that isnt gonna get you the truth either do some sluething yourself or hire a pi
2006-12-08 03:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't matter whether you looked in his phone or not...
If he asked you to marry him, then he should not have anything to hide...
If I had a girlfriend and she looked into my phone I'd be a little ticked that she didn't trust me, but I wouldn't get mad because I have nothing to hide...
If he is getting mad its because he is hiding something...be careful and reevaluate your decision on marrying this guy...
Good luck!!!
2006-12-08 03:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I look through my boyfriend's phone. If he's got nothing to hide, why should he care? I'd let him look through mine.
2006-12-08 03:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either he thinks it's an invasion of privacy or he definitely has something to hide. You should def. bring him getting up so mad over it and see what's up.
2006-12-08 03:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most get mad when they have something to hide.
2006-12-08 03:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋