Fed Up with losing weight ?

Question

Ive had enough with trying to lose weight. I am 6'1 and 235 pounds. I am sick and tired of the hypocracies . I have been trying for almost a year and havent lost a pound. So why bother ! I am no less than anyone else because I am overweight. . Its sad because that is the reaction that I get from most people. For me, when someone says or mentions I am over wieght , it not all they are saying. Its like saying Im not worth being happy or beautiful or smart.
The media makes it seems the skinny=happiness and overweight=depression . You dont see skinny people being harrassed to run to the gym because they are "healthy" which is a crock.
I used to feel bad because I am overweight compared to my friends. That I couldnt get a boyfriend or get ahead in life. I have a boyfriend and I have men all around me. I am very intelligent and am going to school . So why should I worry
I know that I would get the odd responce (like my money hungry trainer ) Its for you to be healthy in later life. But I am healhty now and will continue to be. I just dont think that killing myself in a gym and being unconfortable all the time is worth it so that I can walk on a beach in total confidence. I have done that already when i was in Cuba and I had all the confidence in the world. So what do you think ?

Answer 1

You go girl!

It's quite possible to be fat AND healthy, if you are eating good food (not junk) and exercising. Just enjoy life and ignore the bigots.

Check out this article
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,7-2491892,00.html

Answer 2

It sounds like you are confident and no problems with relationships. Also, if you are exercising you should be Ok. Since you tried conventional things and did not get results, maybe this is the body you were meant to have. If you are happy, then don't bother with what other people think.
You are a large person, simply put. 6'1" is extremely tall for a woman. And women need extra fat than men do. You might also be very muscular.
As long as you are confident and living healthfully, fine.
It sounds to me like you are being harrassed!
Do what makes you happy. being "healthy" shouldn't make anyone miserable.

Answer 3

If you are satisfied with who you are than why are you trying to lose weight?. Losing weight should be something YOU want to do not anyone else in this world. Who is hypocriticizing you?. Like what type of diet are you on, since you said you've been trying for over a year and you haven't lost a pound. If someone says that you are overweight, the best thing to do is to keep your self-esteem high and just reply with "Thank You". Don't let it get too you because if you let it get too you than it makes you not want to lose weight and it makes you get down in the dumps, Don't listen to everyone in this world. Honey, If you love yourself for who you are than SO BE IT!.

Answer 4

Go to www.sparkpeople.com
It is a healthy way to lose weight and it is a free site. It's like having your private nutritionist.
You type in how much you want to lose and by when etc...and they plan out your meals so you can achieve your goal. They have a calorie counter and everything. Plus they give you a fitness plan according to what type of exercising you like to do. You can exercise at home or do walking, you will see the variety of options. It is free and you can have support from the members. It is a real neat site. I'm really impressed.
Enjoy! Smile!

God Bless!

Answer 5

I m reminding u 1 thing, Its ur life,, nd u get to take all the decisions....Being overweight is not a big deal, the thing is tht u r healthy or not... My mom is fat but she is healthy. u wanna kno how... She can jogg 10km continuously widout stopping, can lift 100lbs of weight. She is more healthy and fat than my dad.... If u don do excersice nobody will probably gonna bug u but u ll feel bad...Trust me sumday u ll realise wat u ve dane....

My suggestion is to get a gud healthy simple diet, which u can continue 4 the rest of ur lyf...nd go to a gym 3 times a week, 40 min a day. thats it..Weigh urself, but dont be surprised to see that u gained weight.caz probably u gained muscle, which weighs 3 times more than fat....gud luk....

Answer 6

i also use to be overweight. i started just walking around the block once a day , and i took relacore. and i have lost about 100 lbs. it took a while for me to loose it, but i feel better about myself. but if you are happy with the way you look and feel then i say go with the way you feel..

Answer 7

I believe that you are angry because you are not seeing the results for your efforts, so your decision is now accepting yourself as you are and the hell with what ever body else thinks.

At one time, you believed everything that you are now angry about and felt that being thin or thinner would be in your best interest or at lease more healthy.

If you want to remain at your present weight, that is your decision but if you are steadily putting on weight, that would be a problem. If you feel that you are doing everything right and seeing no results, then you may need to see your doctor or a nutritionist for assistance.

Keep in mind the following when trying to lose weight:

You already know how to lose weight. You know that if you eat less and exercise more eventually you’ll see the pounds come off. What’s getting in your way? Why do you usually regain the weight you lost? The answer to all these questions is the same “Emotional Eating.” Simply defined, emotional eating means you eat to satisfy emotional hunger; it means you use food for comfort or as a way to cope with life; and it means you eat for reasons other than what your body needs. Whenever you reach for a boredom-breaking snack despite your commitment, or whenever you eat to quell anxiety, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you binge after a fight, or double up on portions because your day turned sour, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you feel that sharp craving for your favorite food, that’s emotional eating. When we eat during these times while on a diet, we believe the diet doesn’t work or that we lack self control and then look for the quickest way to lose weight (fasting/diet pills, ect) after eating all we can since we already messed the diet day up. Read the information below but remember that emotional eating plays a big part in why we don’t continue dieting and why we regain lost weight and why we binge today and start a new diet tomorrow. Best of Luck.

Every year Americans invest billions of dollars in weight loss diets and gimmicks, many of which yield few results. However, the lure of quick, easy weight loss is hard to resist. Despite ineffective tools, most hopeful consumers are willing to give the next weight loss fad a chance. If you're planning to start a new diet, it is important to remember the following information.
Food-specific diets: Have you ever tried the cabbage diet or the fruit-only diet? These are just a couple of examples of diets that promote one "specific" food that causes weight loss. No matter how much you think you'll enjoy ice cream at every meal, inevitably you will get bored with eating the same food repeatedly. As a result, you'll eat less food than needed to maintain your weight. This type of diet will not teach you healthier eating habits or provide a balance of nutrients, and consequently is not effective for long-term weight loss.

High-protein, low-carbohydrate diets: One of the most recent trends in dieting, these diets are based on the concept that carbohydrates are "bad" and that everyone has some degree of insulin resistance, resulting in poor carbohydrate metabolism. Many proponents of these diets suggest that including carbohydrates in your diet will cause weight gain. The reality, though, is that eating more calories (whether as carbohydrate, fats, or protein) than you burn will cause weight gain.

High-fiber, low-calorie diets: Fiber-rich foods play an important role in a healthy diet. They are a helpful ingredient of weight loss efforts because they provide bulk to the diet, which helps you feel fuller sooner. Be careful, though: if you plan to increase the fiber in your diet, be sure to increase your fluid intake at the same time or you may experience cramping, bloating, and constipation. High-fiber diets will help with weight loss only if you restrict calories in conjunction with addition of extra grains, fruits and vegetables.

Liquid diets: Consumers face a couple of different liquid diet options. Your local grocery store and pharmacy sell over-the-counter liquid meal replacements, which can be expensive and frequently add extra calories to daily consumption if not managed carefully. On the other hand are liquid diets that require medical supervision. These diets are usually very low in calories and may result in metabolic abnormalities if dieters are not carefully monitored. Neither type of liquid diet should be used for long-term weight loss unless monitored by a health care professional. Radically changing your caloric intake in this way will not result in long-term behavior modification and healthy eating patterns.

Fasting: As a way to cleanse the body or jump-start a weight-loss program, fasting has been recommended for years. However, all that fasting really does is deprive your body of nutrients and decrease your energy, leaving you feeling weak and lightheaded. If the right nutrients are not available for your cells to use as energy, your liver will convert fat stores to ketones for use as energy (ketosis). Long-term ketosis can be harmful to your health.

No fad diet or gimmick will work magic for safe and effective weight loss. The following are some suggestions for ensuring a long-term healthy eating plan and getting your weight loss efforts off to an encouraging start:

Eat a variety of foods. Remember, a balanced diet will ensure that you get all necessary nutrients.

Get some physical activity every day. Calories in must be less than calories out to ensure successful weight loss. To keep "calories out" at a healthful level, make you get at least 30 minutes of physical activity every day.

Include sources of fiber in your diet. They will add bulk and give you a feeling of fullness.

Choose a diet low in fats, saturated fats, and cholesterol. You do need to consume some fat for good health. Aim for no more than 30 percent of your total calories as fat calories, of which no more than 10 percent should be saturated fat calories.

Choose foods moderate in sugars. Foods that are high in simple sugars usually offer little nutritional value and will add unwanted calories.

Choose foods moderate in salt and sodium. Remember that salt has been added to many foods during preparation or processing, so it's not necessary to add extra salt at the table.

Diets do work

Diets can work but because we know so little about ourselves and our relationship with food, it makes it difficult to win the battle. A lot of us have problems with dieting because we have a problem called "emotional eating" we eat to comfort ourselves during difficult, stressful, sad, etc times in our lives.

You may experience all those emotions during dieting as we continuously get on the scale hoping to see a big difference in numbers after dieting only for a day or two. Also what is stressful when dieting is that we try to lose a large number of weight in such a short period of time which in most cases is unreasonable.

This all brings about stress, discomfort and sadness. When we feel this way, we turn to our best friend for help and support which for many of us is food. The diet is now broken and we feel that we can't stick to diets. We then try fad diet after fad diet hoping to lose the original 20 pounds and now we may have as much as 30 pounds to lose because we continue to put on weight as we continue to break these fad diets by binging for starting our next diet.

Please learn about your relationship with food before your next diet so that you may achieve your goals. To help a little, keep in mind the following:


P.S. After learning about my relationship with food, I was able to drop my weight from 263 pounds down to 151 pounds which is a 112 pound weight lost