My boyfriend and I have been attempting to have sex for 3 nights in a row now. It's my first time, and everytime we try it hurts really bad and we have to stop. He and I are becoming very frustrated and I wish I knew of a way to make it less painful, or not painful at all (I know, wishful thinking) and more of an enjoyable experience. I also feel like I'm going to "break" something down there that's not supposed to be broken. I know the hymen breaks but I feel like something else might be breaking too.I really need suggestions from people if you have any. Please let me know what you think. I am so confused and helpless.Thank you.
2006-12-08 02:57:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lots of foreplay sweetie
2006-12-08 02:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by sd_andrea86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you want it? Next are u wet enough before he actually jumps into you? Now are you open to using lubricants?
Well, if this is just the issue that u are having sex with your BF to keep him then forget it lady. Make sure you want to experience it and well yes it does hurt like hell the first time...now if you have a lot of fore play and give him an ******** making his penis more moist before he actually gets in would work, Now if all the oral and fore play fails then use the lubricating gel and a lot of it BUT the hymen breaking does cause pain and so be ready for that...its natural and so just go ahead and relax when he gets in...sometimes out of apprehension of the pain you tighten your vaginal/pelvic muscle and that makes it more painful. So relax and soak urself in warm water and then go on ahead. If you need a medical practitioner's help lemme know on my email i.d. Shall be glad to help.
2006-12-11 23:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING IT HURTS A LOT BUT AFTER A WHILE YOU START TO LIKE IT AND THE PAIN GOES AWAY ALSO DON'T DO ANYTHING IF YOU DON'T FEEL READY THIS HAS TO COME TO YOU !!! THERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN FORCE IT !!
IF YOU ALREADY MADE YOUR MIND UP MAYBE YOU NEED SOME K*Y OR ANY KIND OF LUBRICATION TO MAKE IT ESSAYER MAKE SURE HE WARES A CONDOM AND REMEMBER THEY ONLY 85% EFFECTIVE !!
E-MAIL ME IF YOU HAVE ANY MORE QUESTIONS !!
AND GIRL BE VERY CAREFUL!!!
2006-12-08 03:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by *********** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny you should not have sex with your boyfriend. Wait till you get married. I'm 19 and its hard for me to wait but i'm doing it. What if you guys break up and you find out your pregnet. Then he has to support you and the child. What if there is no love there and your rest of you life stinks becuase you couldn't wait till marriage. Also live by what God wants you to do.
2006-12-08 03:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by umplebyths06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait until you get a ring on the third finger of your left hand.
Peace and Good Luck
2006-12-08 03:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as it is such a problem you may need a doctor to help you out -- they can let you know if there is anything physically wrong and if not then you know that its all normal if a trifle difficult
2006-12-08 03:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using lub... it might make it a little better...
and just go slow... dont try to rush into it
And I dont think you will break anything.
2006-12-08 03:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by chelseylauren2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if it hurts that bad. It's going to hurt, but why do you feel like you have to do it?
2006-12-08 03:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juz be gentle..
n the rest will fall into place..
;P wink
2006-12-08 03:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by applejuice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋