What would you do if you liked this person. The person said that they liked you and wanted to start a relationship. Then he says that he likes you and want to spend time with you. After a while 2 weeks or so, he says that he is not going to dropwhat he is doing to call you. After that you try to call him and ther is little taking inbetween. About 4 month go by and no one has talked. You find out that he has found someone else with in 2 months. Now they are engaged to be married in march. The person that he is marrying was one of your best friends. How whould you handle the situation. She wants you to be a brides maid. do u be a brides maid or say no. End the friedship?? She never really taks to and and when he is around she ignores you completlye.. What do you do ???????
2006-12-08 02:56:10 · 11 answers · asked by sactified1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me start from the bottom and work up! You would be the bigger person and accept the wedding invitation even if that means being in the wedding. First of all, you made the mistake of discussing your feelings with your friend. She was already plotting as you were talking. No one has ever told you when it comes to your man you have no damn friends? I learned that the hard way once and never let it happen again. Everything little detail you gave her about what you were feeling she was using it to get the man you wanted that she now has. You go to the wedding, be in the wedding if asked then you move on. Why I say that is because they're already expecting you to decline but you're going to show them that you have not harsh feelings. You will rub their noses in it in a nice way. If allowed you will even bring a date and have a great time with that date. You show him that you weren't really holding out to be with him either. He more than likely wasn't serious about being with you if he jumped from you to her in that short period of time. He more than likely never planned to be with you. However you will get back at them by doing your part as far as the wedding, she may then start calling you once she sees you're not bitter. If this happens then you have the ball in your court to either deal with her or tell her to kiss off as you really want to do anyway.
2006-12-08 03:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a hard one. It sounds like you have some pain about this lost relationship and being in the wedding would only cause you more pain. Both of these individuals have been secretive about this relationship and now they want you in the wedding! Hmmm that doesn't sound right to me. It appears to be disrespectful on their part. If she treats you so disrespectfully when he is around, why would you want to be in the wedding? I think it will cause you a great deal of stress and pain. There are nicer people around, make a new friend and let this friendship go. It's not worth the effort.
2006-12-08 03:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW - Jerry springer here we come - no seriously though I would be the brides maid - heck yeah! Show up looking way better than she ever could - loosing a friendship isn't worth any guy and deffinetly not THIS guy. Sounds like a true player and if I were you I would be counting my lucky stars it isn't you engaged to him. Guys like this will always cheat and he may even make a move back at you someday! Don't fall for it but telling him where to shove it will feel awfully good. Don't let him see it bothers you or that you even care!
2006-12-08 03:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not meant for you.Take it that he is not the will of God for you . If he met your friend thru you then you lady friend must be a devil. You have to run away from her not to talk of you being her bride-maid.If they met on a neutral ground politely turn the offer down because you Will not be able to withstand the day and you might end up spoiling the day for her,so stay clear.
2006-12-08 03:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by martins myke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the bride know that you were into him? I would decline being the bridesmaid. If she knew that you liked him I would consider breaking the friendship. But it really doesn't sound like she was much of a friend to begin with.
2006-12-08 03:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your friend know that you were seeing this guy? If so, she really isn't a friend at all. I would say no to the wedding, don't put yourself through that. If she is ignoring you now.. when he is around.... forget the both of them, they are not worth it. I am sorry for your hurt.
2006-12-08 03:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by MC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If it was me... I would wish them the best of luck and walk away. In my opinion they both did you wrong. Friends don't do that. But if you are willing to forgive and forget, with time, you all can be friends. Friends like you were, most likely not. Good luck with your situation.
2006-12-08 03:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay..
this is what will i do..
juz hangout with my fwens..
n try to get over it by march..
if it works..
juz be the brides maid n enjoy th wedding..
give them a hug and congratulate them both...
if it doesnt..
kick the guy in the balls...
he dont deserve it
2006-12-08 03:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by applejuice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be her bridesmaid. Let her find someone else to be a bridesmaid. She doesn't deserve you.
2006-12-08 03:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm going to go with toddmac20 here that was tha answer i was going to say
2006-12-08 07:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋