Why am I so bloody miserable?!?

Question

I have a good husband, lovely kids, a job I like, a nice home, good friends... Ok not a lot of money but apart from that... I feel miserable but not necessarily depressed. More of an existentialist anxiety. I look at things and think that nothing is ever going to last, that everything I do could be the last time and so on.... Maybe I am depressed although I am active which does not fit in with being depressed! I exercise, go out with friends and do a lot of organising so what the hell is wrong with me? Please try and be helpful instead of calling me a miserable cow!!!

Does anyone else feel this way?

Thanks

Answer 1

try something new and interesting, maybe it's not so much being depressed but just bored
meet new people, go out somewhere nice with ur husband, have a holiday, i could go on all day
it doesn't have to be something big, maybe u need to build ur confidence a little
if none of this works u should probably consider going to a doctor, if u are depressed then it could help a lot! don't stay feeling the way u do now, try and find something so u can start living ur life with fun again
good luck :)

Answer 2

No question about it - you're depressed! Depression doesn't always mean one turns into lonely recluse curled up in a ball on the sofa. It could very well be caused by a number of perfectly treatable things, such as a hormone imbalance. Doctors can do tests and find out for sure if its a medical cause, and if so, how to treat it.
And you could try living in the now, not the future. Why waste all your time in the here and now worrying about what might happen tomorrow? I'd be miserable too.

Answer 3

I'd consider talking to your doctor and/or psychologist/psychiatrist (many insurance policies cover this). They can determine the true nature of your situation by diagnosis.

You may have a depressive disorder. This doesn't mean you are abnormal. In fact millions of people have some sort of depressive disorder, at least once in their lifetime. Do some research on "Depressive Disorders" and you'll find there are different degrees. You can be active and still depressed. But you may not be depressed at all.

It could be that there is something missing in your life and you just haven't put your finger on it. Therapy can also uncover these subconscious thoughts without there being "something wrong" with your mental disposition.

You might not have a mental ailment but rather a physical one, such as a thyroid disorder, which screws with your blood chemistry.

Communicating with a professional is my best advice.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, the way you feel may be a result of many things. You may indeed suffer from depression despite the lack of signs. You may have a chemical imbalance which has been documented to affect mood. I would encourage you to get some tests to determine your blood / hormone levels are within the normal range and also to speak with a professional counselor. These things may help you uncover any issues or at least get you headed in the right direction. I have had some experiences with this in my own life. There are no promises or guarantees but I can tell you that seeking professional treatment is the best avenue to take. If they are unable to determine the issue at least you have peace of mind by ruling out some of your concerns.

Answer 5

I think we all go through this same feeling at some point and not just once. You are doing the right thing by thinking about what you have when you feel this way. I think it is human nature to have these feelings even tho they are unreasonable. I sometimes wonder if our hormones play a part in this too. This to will pass and come again. I can say been there done that and know I too will do it again. God bless you for being so open sharing does help.

Answer 6

You have depression and the easy way to find out to what degree is to start listening to your inner dialogue. Content, comfortable, happy people do not have thoughts of "it will never last" or other self-defeating inner statements.
You may need a change of scenery or a change in your general outlook. Do you spend time with people who make you feel happy and uplifted or are they the sort who make petty comments and attempt to pass sarcasm off as humour because they are afraid of genuinely being humorous? Are there certain people who you feel are a lot of work to be around?
Be honest with yourself and do an assessment on your life and your surroundings. You are missing something and if you spend some time alone and ask yourself the right questions, you will find what that something is.

Answer 7

Here's something paradoxical. You might be anxious because your life is so good. Now the real explanation for this is simple, you do not want to lose what you have or have your life and all the good things in it come to an end.
I think this is an understandable way to feel.
Just try not to focus on losing what you have or "the last time" reallize that all lives and situations change sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. It's a comforting thought when you're going through bad times, anyway.
Who knows, your life could get better later, so don't worry about it. And we all share the same end destiny. What you pass on to your children is what matters.
Also, if you believe in God and the afterlife, it will help you too because you realize that life here is not all there is, and even if you are happy on earth, there is something better for you and your loved ones when you depart.
Even if you don't believe in God, you can know that what you pass on to your children will live on. Sometimes for generations.

Answer 8

Hmmm - anxiety, sense of doom, things that should be fun aren't - signs of depression - pretty likely when everything is going perfectly except the way you feel. This obviously isn't major depression - looks like more of a low-level chronic depression, which just takes the fun out of life. This sort of thing is not too difficult to overcome with antidepressants, cognitive therapy, or a combination of both. It took me a decade of feeling the way you describe before I did anything about it. For me, a low dose of antidepressant returned by life and outlook to normal almost overnight.

Answer 9

You are not alone in this!! As women people expect so much from us that we forget that we need to have time for ourself also. Try to change your way of thinking!! Set a goal for yourself and stick to it. This time of year is hell on every one. We need the vitamin B from the sun and when we dont get it we start to get depressed. Just becasue you have a great life doesn't mean you can't get depressed. I'd go to the Dr and check and make sure you dont' have a chemical imbalance.. have the dr draw blood. Find a "happy place" when you get down. Believe me it helps!! Hang in there it will get better!!!

Answer 10

HI -
you can be as active as you want to be and still be depressed. I suffer from depression year round, winter time is rougher for me and I have a very good relationship with my doctor so I can call him and we increase or decrease my meds as needed.
I also have a nice house, husband, two kids, a dog.. not lots of money but still.
Did these feelings just start happening or have you had them for a long time?
I would suggest that you go visit with your dr, they can talk with you about your feelings, and mabye try some meds for you. I take Prozac and it helps me.
try taking a few minutes out of the your day to just breathe, relax as much as you can, remember to take time for you as hard as it sounds it is very important!!

Take care of you

if you want to talk let me know.