My bf and I had a 3some w/ a "friend"--he was recently talking to her and she said "Too bad you are taken" -- should I take that personal..or just let it be?? The friend and I did hang out as friends before and after the 3some,,,but not since she has said that...
2006-12-08 02:53:59 · 9 answers · asked by Kristen V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's a mistake to involve a friend in that. You should probably tell her to back off of him and next time you do it, go find a girl neither of you know.
2006-12-08 02:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned. Those situations always tend to break up relationships. Someone mentioned before that she is being respectful because she said too bad you are in a relationship and only in the situation where she is invited would she make a move. Well, that is garbage. If she was being respectful, she would not have even said such a thing. Her intentions was to let your boyfriend know that she is interested. She said it is too bad he has a girlfriend because she is hoping he would leave you to be with her. This way, when she is with him, she won't have to worry about you. She is no friend, believe me. You need to talk to your boyfriend about all this and clear the air about his intentions with her. At least you won't have to sit there guessing about what might be going on with them. Tell her that you prefer for her to stay away from you and your boyfriend; that it was a one time thing and it is done and over with. Good luck to you.
2006-12-08 11:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you choose to engage in a threesome when u are in a relationship, you have to be sure your primary partner and you are very secure in your love for one another. Did you or your boyfriend suggested this? Have you done it just to please him? Does he talk about the threesome or it has become an awkward subject between you two?
Here are some options: find out where both of them stand on the subject, talk with each of them individually and calmly. Tell your boyfriend that you care for him and work on your relationship between you, built it, nurture it and do not involve other partners for now. As for the girl in question, no need to avoid her, straighten this out, go for a coffee and a chat, it may be just something she said jokingly and you read too much into it.
Find this all out for yourself, then you know where you stand with them both, and you will feel a whole lot better.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 11:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you broke the cardinal rule when it comes to threesomes. Never involve your friends. Now, I think you definitely have a problem.
Your friend and BF may be hooking up behind your back. Not a pleasant thought, I know, but a reality you must face.
2006-12-08 10:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's being respectfull and letting him know that she's respecting you and his relationship. Only when she was or is invited to join it, will she. So nothing to be worried about. Just keep putting it on your man like he's never had it before! Don't give him a reason to want another woman.
2006-12-08 10:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You open yourself up to that sort of thing when you involve yourself in multiple partners. Nobody is "taken" when there is more than 2 people involved. There are a few things that aren't meant to be shared.
2006-12-08 11:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by hikerboy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's all fun and games until someone "cheats" with the third party.
but is it really cheating if you've both already f u c ked said third party?
threesomes aren't always a good idea...i speak from experience.
2006-12-08 11:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wacth ur friend and ur man 3somes tend to cause those probs
2006-12-08 10:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by charmaine m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..
he chose u ryte..?
no worry
2006-12-08 10:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by applejuice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋