I mean every time i try to get into a relationship the girl leads me on for a couple of weeks then she decides that she is confused or she has a boyfriend all of the sudden. Someone please tell me why
2006-12-08 02:41:06 · 25 answers · asked by Matt C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not for nothing, but I think the answer is in your question. You said you "try to get into a relationship". I think you are trying too hard. There are a lot of women out there playing mind games, and suckering guys/girls into doing stuff for them with the same kind of head fakes. Theres a lot of women that dont play those games either, but I think if they see you and you're going "relationship?.. anyone? relationship?", they might be a little on gaurd and taken back.
You seem like a generally straight up kind of person. If it's a relationship you want, I say let it find you. Take some of the time you have been wasting on these indecisive or fickle women and invest it in yourself. Do something you've always wanted to do, learn or try. Do what you feel is going to make you happier and a more complete person regardless of who you're with or not with. When a person feels good about themselves, they have more confidence. Confidence always makes you more attractive.
Putting yourself on the path to knowing what you like, what makes you happy and who you are will make you visible to women that are doing the same and don't play games or try to use you to fluff their egos and compensate for their insecurities.
After all, your happiness is about you, not about them. It sounds crude but think about in terms of business(your happiness). If you want to do business (be happy), you have to mean business (want to make yourself happy) and be able to identify other people that mean business (doing what makes them happy). The only way to do that is to know business (invest time in yourself and find out makes you happy- be part of the decision making process of who/what is right for you and not right for you).
At the very least, you will live or die by your own decisions and not be at the mercy of someone else's. After that, everything will start to pan out. Of course, this is just my opinion... I could be wrong.
2006-12-08 03:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by j_undisputed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer your question in the form of a story. Once upon a time, a man was walking down a beach, when he found a lamp in the sand. He rubbed the lamp, and a genie appeared. The genie said he was all wished out and told him he would only grant one wish, not the customary three.
The man said "Well, I always wished there were a bridge from here, in California, to Hawaii. Do that for me."
The genie said "No way pal, there ain't enough concrete in the world. Think of something else."
"Okay", said the man. "You know, I've always wished I could understand women better. Make it so that I can understand every woman."
"You want a two lane or a four lane road on that bridge?" said the genie.
2006-12-08 02:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by USAF, Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well ask why the sun rises in the east or, more appropriately, why lions eat zebras: they just do. Specifically, I should say that MOST "western" women do this (America, Great Britain, Australia, etc.). You have three choices:
1. Continue to dig in the pile of horse manure looking for a tootsie roll.
2. Learn player tactics. They're not hard; most guys can master them within a few months.
3. Look for foreign women.
Good luck.
2006-12-08 02:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they think that having a boyfriend is like having a toy. You can get rid of it anytime you want to and that's not the case. I am telling you this, find someone who likes you and respects you not someone who comes to you and like then just jerk you off the next week. Take my advice and find a girl you like and confront her , tell her how you feel and if she feel the same way talk , make a gentle connection and if it does not work out do not give up, try harder and find someone or let that someone find you! PEACE MAN!!
2006-12-08 02:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by chrisakabruce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you move to slow for her or something. Girls play mind games because it's fun. Lots of guys do this too so it goes both ways.
2006-12-08 02:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matt....playing the mind games does go both ways..but as for me, I wouldn't want sumone who was into playing mind games...can end up being a bad thing..I know this to be true...
2006-12-08 02:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Viki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is scared and playing games gives her a sense of power. Sometimes you can call her on it by telling her your leaving if she doesn't act decent. Then go if she's hopeless.
2006-12-08 02:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you. Maybe they had a change of hear. Try asking one of your male friends or men on here maybe?
I have seen that with men as well in my past, that's why I say try asking them.
2006-12-08 02:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are attracting the wrong type of girl. If you think that's the ONLY type that's out there, then it WILL be....for you. Know that there are lots and lots of great girls out there, and your ARE going to find her.....and you will! Don't look at what's wrong with ppl look to what's right!
2006-12-08 02:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chaseing read The Count of Monte Cristo and be chased dear, dont get upset it is only a game you will see have some faith
2006-12-08 02:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by chris77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋