I sent him a voice message to end our relationship and he has not called!! I know have done the right thing but why does it hurt so bad I really want to call him and just chat not to get back together to end it amicably I had driven to his place at 5am this morning to speak to him that the relationship was not working for me as I never see him and the few near misses he always has a story and last night was one of them. I am so scared to be alone and I have since called all my ex 's to try and find some kind of comfort and luckily none of them picked up so I am really left with nothing else but calling him. I miss him so much that I feel a hole in my stomoch which no amount of food can feel. I still live him very much but I do not think he loves me or he ever loved me for that matter!!
2006-12-08 02:32:30 · 19 answers · asked by Khensani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...what a way to start your morning, huh?
No, i don't think it would be smart to call him again, even though i know you want to really bad...if you feel that he doesn't love you the way you love him, then there is something wrong. there is a guy out there who will care for you the same as you care for him, so start looking...or keep yourself busy to not think about him!
good luck
2006-12-08 02:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off a voice message is a horrible way to end a relationship. Everyone needs closure and that was no way to end things, you both probably do need to talk things out, even if you still want to end the relationship.
Secondly, finding comfort in an ex is not the place to find it. You need to find yourself first, always depending on someone to be there for you is going to get you no where. Do you not have any strictly friends that you can talk to about your problems/situations?
I think you have a lot of growing up and finding yourself to you. You can only take this journey alone, depending on a man is only getting you back to where you are now
2006-12-08 10:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the last thing that you want to do is call him, if you feel that you can not be together. I mean why do you want to talk to him if you feel that he doesn't love you or never did, do you think thathe will want to talk to you. I mean come on you broke up with him through hhis voice mail, thatt's kind of messed up. You should have called him and said that you really don't think that it's working out in a realtionship but you do care about him and would to try to remain friends at least. I personally don't believe you should ever leave a person bad news through an answering machine or voice mail, well good luck
2006-12-08 10:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard thing. When you break up with someone, it is hard at first, for both parties (unless like you say he does not love you). I would just leave it alone and move on to find someone that will really care for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If he never sees you, do you think that maybe he has someone else? I would think so. I guess that you could spy on him if you really want to, otherwise, I would leave it alone and let ex's remain that. Ex means goodbye as I say, and that is what you told him on the message, so if you listen to this advice or not it is up to you, but in my opinion, let bygones be bygones and move on.
2006-12-08 10:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should of talked face to face with him and not sent him a voice mail.That was impersonal.He deserved to hear it from you.If nothing else to give him the chance of asking any questions of you so he had a closure to our relationship.I would not call him unless it was to apologize to him for the voice mail.You would just be sending him mixed signals.You were so scared to be alone so you called all your ex's?Than maybe you shouldn't have broken up with him if you miss him so much...maybe you made a mistake.You really need to think things through before you act on them.
2006-12-08 10:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by daklove2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Left a voice message? that is low and inconsiderate. Dont try and contact him now, his response will not be good. and then on top of that you tried calling all your exes? Where do you live Mars? that is the ultimate desperation. spend some time with your girlfriends, maybe their brothers are cute. and in the meantime if you do contact your ex apologize for the message and be woman and dump him to his face
2006-12-08 10:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he hasn't called because he is upset about the impersonal way you ended the realtionship. No, you should not call him. That is giving mixed signals and will only make you seem cruel. You can't break up with someone and then call them a short time later and "chat" like your best friends. Doesn't work that way.
2006-12-08 10:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by obeyfez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when a girl let's a guy go the hard way, it leaves a painfull scar that never goes away. even if you get back togeather, he will always be living with that fear that you'll abuse his feelings again. I suggest you leave things how they are, but if you try to get back togeather, try as hard as you can to make him forget about the time you dumped him.
cesar
2006-12-08 10:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by greatpharohcesar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him girl. He is probably very very hurt especially if he wasn't expecting the break up. Delete his number and just give yourselves time to heal. I understand it is very difficult but things just were not meant to be. The feeling gets better, it just takes time.
2006-12-08 10:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is a matter with you? You just ended the relationship so there it is.
2006-12-08 10:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by copestir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋