What is the matter with him?

Question

My soon to be husband is mad at me and I don't know why I've asked him twice and he says nothing is wrong but my instincts tell me other wise. Is it just my nerves trying to interfear? Sometimes what he says to me makes me want to just cry, it's rude and crude. Why is he so mooddy? Is it he's just nervous to? The wedding is in five weeks, is he just actting like a normal bacholor soon to be married? He's happy as long as we're going over the plans. Why is he acting this way!?

Answer 1

Could be prewedding jetters but i would sit down and ask if he is having second thoughts

Answer 2

Yeah I am engaged to be married in 3 months and my fiance & I bicker alot lately. I feel he's a real smart a s s now and I often feel like crying because of the comments he says to me. Othertimes though he's hilarious and we have more fun then ever. In all honesty I think it's nerves. How do I know this?? Well take me for instance, my moods are all bent out of sorts. I have high highs & low lows, one minute I'm laughing the next I'm in tears. Blame it on the wedding. The pressure of money, time, things to do, and the event nearing have you both on a rollar coaster of emotions. I really would just trying to be more aware and maybe control those emotional extremities! Good Luck...

Answer 3

Probably tense over the upcoming wedding or maybe something else not to do with you is bothering him, trouble at work or financial problems. Maybe he is worried about now having a wife to support (not to say you can't support yourself, just the way a guy getting married may see it) plus the expenses of the wedding. I'm sure it is just a stressful time and unfortunately you are there so he takes it out on you.

Mabye the two of you can take a weekend off of wedding planning to jus spend time with each other and not worry about anything else.

Answer 4

I would talk to him about your concerns. He may be bipolar or something. Maybe you should be asking yourself if you really want to marry a guy who is so moody and makes you feel like crud by saying such mean things. I know the wedding is only 5 weeks away but if this guy makes you feel like this now...do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him? Abuse is abuse and sometimes verbal can be the worst. I speak from experience....I know how it feels when the man you love can look at you like you are a piece of dirt and say hurtful things to you...I lived and was married to one of them for five years and it doesn't work.....my self esteem was soooo low when I left him....as crazy as it sounds when you hear negative things over and over you start to question yourself...ask yourself what kind of life you would have with this person....don't worry about cancelling the wedding and dissapointing the invitees - think about in the long road how will your life be...this isn't the only man in the world and if there was one piece of advice I would beg you to take with you it would be to let you know there are so many fish in the sea - please don't settle. Good luck..

Answer 5

It could be anything... .maybe he's stressed at work or with family. All you can do is be supportive and talk to him and let him know your there whenever he wants to talk. I think a lot could be nerves, the wedding is all coming together and there is a lot going on. Im sure he will relax once things start to settle down. Don't stress your getting married and everything is going to work out perfectly. One thing to remember is try not to overanalyse your fiance, maybe hes just in a mood, it has nothing to do with you. Good Luck

Answer 6

I am sure he is nervous about this whole "Forever" thing. I know I was. You get wrapped up in planning and you forget your committing. You would hope this would be for life or longer... I plan to only be married once. He is probably thinking... This is going to be the person I wake up with everyday.
Why dont you do something together, like take a cooking class or get couples massage. Let him know your still as much in love with him and will continue to do so everyday.

Answer 7

I think your time have come to begin taking marriage counseling?, there is not one thing, you should see that?, also you should see that you have not become more important for your self, any longer but him?, so are you putting more into this new life, forever together with him as he has done for yours own good future life?, don't use your instincts, to try to build your future with him or anyone else, as a Woman you should be using your own intuition, steal a free woman with not compromise, so he can see that your intuition steal more accurate and more powerful that any men instincts. I hope you can made the right decision.

Answer 8

need to work through this and help him open up to you comunication is very important in a marriage! Give him a little time men take a little longer to open up and it is hard to sit and wait for that sometimes but in the long run hopefully he will open up to you! he's probably just got alot on his mind with the wedding coming up! but try to work things out before you dont want to be worrying about that on your wedding day!! its your day and you need to be in a great mood! Try helping him get in a better mood if he has alot to do try leanding him a hand. or treat him to a special night out maybe its all just stress. I hope the two of you work it all out! And i hope your wedding is wonderful!! good luck

Answer 9

Try not to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Pre wedding nerves. Just relax. Congratulations on your future marriage.

Answer 10

5 weeks to go before a "lifetime" commitment, and you are already having communication problems?? You need to sort that problem out BEFORE you get married. This is a major source of heartache for a married couple!!! Communication is #1!!!

Answer 11

it is probably a combination of his nerves - and yours. If he says nothing is wrong, it may just be that you are letting the stress and nerves get to you.