His Married and separated with 3 kids. His around 38, And he says he needs time to sort himself out, I love him but need him to make more effort although he says he loves me too and I can feel it sometimes and we have a strong connection. I am 25. I dont mind his kids at all and would never take their mothers place. I am totally in love but terrified his not that serious and that He just says he loves me. Please tell me what to do.
We have planned to be just friends and thats it but every time i see him we end up kissing passionately. I wish i could let go or know what to do.
2006-12-08 02:26:39 · 16 answers · asked by Kittykat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he really does need some space,some time on his own. And maybe if he is divorced he`s not ready or willing for now to commit to another relationship. Doesn`t matter that much what a man or a woman says,matter what they are doing. Why don`t you try to talk with him,have an onest and open talk about his wishes,about you and him....and if he needs space and time,fine,then give him some time,but if the deadline comes and he`s still not gving you an honest answer to your needs,then let it be! You are young and you can for sure find a man to be fully commited to you!But,giving the circumstances,let`s give the man some time out.....let him now you are on stand by for some time and let`s see what happens. He could make up his mind in a couple of months,let`s say....he`s 38,he`s all grown up! if not, then you have no reason to stay in an uncertain situation!! Ho have faith and good luck! but be alert and don`t accept half measures,he is 100% yours or nothing at all! You deserve that,don`t you think?
2006-12-08 02:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by NuclearKitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy like a sack of hot rocks. He's no more interested in establishing a long term relationship with you than the man in the moon. I'm a man of 53; this "finding myself" crap is just a line to keep you on a string. You may have a sexual attraction to him - but sex is only a small part of a true relationship. He says he's seperated - what does the wife say? This may be news to her. And seperated still means married. And if he's running around on his present wife, you can be damn sure he'll do it to you (or, in all probability, is doing it now.)
Do yourself a favor- hold in the hormones next time you see him and send him packing. Find someone who puts YOU first.
2006-12-08 10:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He maybe he loves you as a person and he definitely wants you physically but is this enough for you?
You need and you deserve more than he can give you.
He has been married and he already has three kids.He has been there. He does not want something serious at this time in his life.He wants his freedom and to have a good time.
You,on the other hand, are 25 years old, i understand that you are in love but i think you need to move on.Please, find someone who really cares for you and who wants to give every single moment of his life, everything he can just to see you smile, to make you happy.
Move on, please
2006-12-08 10:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by amandarosallyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste my time. I dated a guy that was 27 when I was 17 and he had 2 children but his ex wife never let him see them and he was very hurt by this BUT he never made me suffer for the things that he has been through. Bad things happen and you need to remember that you are not that person that hurt him so you do not deserve the way he is treating you AT ALL! Your young and don't put herself in situation that is already sour, you need to find someone that has LOVE to give not ABUSE!
2006-12-08 10:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got problems. Sounds like he just needs you when he gets horny. Don't be encouraged by all the sympathizers who tell you every thing will be ok and make him use a rubber. Kisses Betty.
2006-12-08 10:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a player.If he really loved you he would make the effort to spend time with you.
2006-12-08 10:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by cutegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be busy or soemthing and dont get the time to call you i have the same thin happen to me but come to find out he was always at wwork and get off the next day
2006-12-08 10:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by B.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has WAY more important things to do than try to have a girlfriend. he really does need to sort HIMSELF out. leave him alone for 6 months. then see what's up.
2006-12-08 10:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by kevin g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is that if it's menat to happen,it will.be patient.you said you two have a strong connection,then something between youis definitely there.
2006-12-08 10:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by norrisjohnson2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know as well as everybody else that the best thing to do is walk away. easier said than done i know, i'm sort of there myself
2006-12-08 10:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by elsie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋