I've been friends with this guy for 12 (YES 12) years...and we slept together a 4 years ago, only once. We went our separate ways for a couple years...both had kids..and now we're back talking again, and spending a lot of time with eachother. We both want it (ya know what I'm talkin about) but for some reason I'm scared to make a move and neither will he. Any suggestions on how to get over this?
2006-12-08 02:19:52 · 24 answers · asked by amiracle27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it easy, find out what he wants and define what you want from the relationship.
sex is not a new thing to you,
its not all that matters
i agree its important,but get your priorities very right.
2006-12-08 02:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by lace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....are you two seeing other people or are you married? If not, do you two want to be together? If you guys want to have a realtionship with each other, then work on the relationship. Don't force your self to have sex with him if your not ready. But if you are and don't know how to go about it. There is nothing you can really do but to just go for it.
2006-12-08 10:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by greenlantern28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself why you're scared and go from there. If it's pretty mutual one of you will eventually make the first move. Maybe he's afraid of ruining things for you. It's a tough call but think about why your scared, is it your kids? Is it his? are you afraid of a relationship starting out of it? You'll figure it out on your own.
2006-12-08 10:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tara C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...more info is needed for my judgement. But basically, just talk to him about this, who knows? He may have came back for u...just make sure he isnt playing u...if all goes well (yep..give it some time.)It will no longer be about sex...it may be the start of a new relationship. Good luck all the best to u :)
2006-12-08 10:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take ur time dont rush into some ur not ready for, when the time is right ull know it.. or u can just stay Friends and move on with ur life and know u have a friend to talk to when u need them...
2006-12-08 10:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by bowpeep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel and tell him that you want to but are scared to make the first move. But if you don't want to sleep with him just tell him. Whatever you decide. Good lUck.
2006-12-08 10:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it and get over it! It's only sex, not like you're giving your life away to a man whore, is it? Enjot iy while it lasts...Your looks will begin to fade soon.
2006-12-08 10:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by ` [ [ E l i e B e a n ] ] ; ; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you are married than I would say if your scared you shouldnt do it.Or try talking to him about it.Maybe you should just value your frienship and leave it that way?
2006-12-08 10:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by daklove2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it.Maybe he feels the same way. Then you too can figure it out together.
2006-12-08 10:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by cutegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in the past..he is there for a reason....dont bring back the dead sweetheart..MOVE ON...Live and learn
2006-12-08 10:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by CharlotteGrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋