This strong gigantic man, is shaped like the cartoon figure, Brutus (in Popeye). I am no Popeye, I am a short rather sinewy man. My sweetheart is a pretty chubby and much taller than me. Whenever Brutus meets us together he physically shoves me aside and asks my sweeheart, "What are you doing, dating this weakling pigmy?" My sweetheart also hates this kind of behavior and often tries to avoid his ugly overtures.The bully is huge and strong and perhaps can squeeze water out of stone! I dare not challenge him to a physical. What should I do to stop him?
2006-12-08 02:11:56 · 15 answers · asked by ari-pup 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
avoid the places this bully "meets" you. no need for a physical challenge as it will solve nothing. you and your sweety need to stand united against this bully and put an end to it. make it clear to bully neither of you will tolerate his behavior, period. AND if he is putting his hands on you, TECHNICALLY, that can be considered assault and you could summon the authorities. maybe that is what it will take. you know brutus better than anyone.
2006-12-08 02:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by deathwishpussy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is so poetic I'm not even sure if this is a real situation.
But what you should do is completely ignore him. A real man doesn't feel threatened by things like this. Your sweetheart will be more impressed with you if you avoid a fight than she will be if you try to fight him. Believe me. Good girls don't want to be the cause of fights, and if she cares about you she won't want to see you get hurt.
You also might consider taking your girlfriend to different places, if you always see this person in the same place.
If you really want to, next time you see him, greet him with a big smile and be very friendly, and ask him to join you. He'll probably be stunned.
2006-12-08 13:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your situation is Sooo not fun! I'll go with what the others are saying about avoiding him, when possible. I'll also expand on what someone said about you & your sweetie standing up to him, as a couple. Just with words, advise him that his actions & words make both of you feel "uncomfortable" &/or "disinclined to be in his company".
Mind you, if he's, like, a total 'Homer Simpson', for get the above & just try to be in a larger group of people...Best of luck.
2006-12-08 11:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Hill&Dale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a situation like that, you need a family or friend member who could teach him a lesson. Otherwise he is harrassing you and calling police may help. Of course not without having a strong enough setup so he is doing it again tommorrow. Heck, become an authority figure yourself. Why do you think most cops become cops?
2006-12-08 11:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by ConstElation 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd take some martial arts classes. But, I once saw my father calm down a large, drunk man who was very angry, without violence, and I was extremely impressed by that, so if you can handle this guy with just words, that would be an important message.
2006-12-09 03:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to go to the same place where he is. If that's not possible (ex: you work together), then make friends with tall, strong people who can help you tell this guy to shut up.
2006-12-08 12:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kaonashi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to avoid him if possible.
Unfortunately if you can not avoid him try telling this bully exactly how this behavior is affecting you. If this is not and option you may have to resort to humiliating him intellectually as size is not everything but if it is everything to him then there is not much of him as a person.
2006-12-08 10:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A good swift kick to the family jewels is a good start. Kick him good and when he doubles over, give him a good jab in the throat. He will go down like a little girl.
2006-12-08 10:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have some friends around when he comes to
you and your sweety. He won't start a physical,
but if he does, have your friends join in, ya know
what I'm saying. Its pretty fair to me. I use to do it.
Hopefully he doesn't catch you alone, even so don't
fear him remind him of your friends. You need to start
working out, build some muscle. your friends won't always be there.
2006-12-08 10:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If possible totally stay away from this person. If that's not possible - make each of you a T-shirt that reads: FRONT SIDE --- " Skin Cancer " BACK SIDE --- "Do Not Touch or Bump!!!"
2006-12-08 10:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Scotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋