which one is correct?

Question

1. 'speak to' or 'speak with'
2. 'talk to' or 'talk with'
3. 'spoke to' or 'spoke with'
4. 'me and my wife is...' or 'my wife and i are...'

additional:
5. 'which one is correct' or 'which is correct'

Answer 1

In 1-3, both are correct; they say slightly different things. Using 'with' suggests both are talking back and forth, whereas 'to' implies you were the one talking.

You have two or three problems in 'me and my wife is' -- as others have pointed out, since it's two, not one, the verb form is 'are.'

It may not be incorrect to put yourself first, but it sounds better to put the other person first -- I'm not sure, maybe it IS incorrect.

The 'me' as subject of the sentence is just wrong.

I am something is correct; Fred talked to me. When the pronoun is the subject of the sentence, use 'I;' when the pronoun is the object of the sentence, use 'me.'

Fred talked to my wife and me is correct (and implies that Fred was the one communicating, you two were receivers).

I can't see the Additional question in this screen, but as I recall, both are correct.

[Edit] 'Which one' implies that only one is correct. ' In 1-3, both are correct, so it turns out to be wrong in this context.

another edit: Actually, I'm not quite accurate in my first paragraph. They are close and often used interchangeably -- seeing them together made me contrast them.

But if you are, say, telling someone something, the 'with' would be wrong. So 'to' is broader and can mean either you said stuff, or the two of you talked something over. At least, that's so with the word 'talk' -- to 'speak to' does seem to me to carry the implication of a one-way communication. (As does its past form 'spoke to' -- though 'with' can go either way.)

Answer 2

1. speak to or speak with- either would be fine. The action of speaking happens regardless of whether or not someone is listening.
2. talk to or talk with- same as above. Talk to is slightly more appropriate based on the action of actually talking, but both are used commonly.
3. spoke to or spoke with- same as number 2
4. The last one is the better option. The problem with the first one is actually not the order listed, but rather it's the "is." Is in this context describes a singular. You will need to replace is with are. Me and my wife are is okay. The last choice is proper in this usage.

Answer 3

Any of them could be depending on the context, except the first one in 4. Even if you use "me and my wife" the correct verb would be "are" not "is".