My boyfriend of 3 years dropped out of high school when he was younger but later we got him his GED and he enrolled in community college. He was trying and doing really good his first semester. Then during his second semester he just started slacking off. Whenever he had to study for a test he conviniently had a headache or stomache ache and etc. It really frustrates me and i tend to get really mad at him for it. i don't know if i should yell at him, just shut my mouth and let him deal with it completely on his own, or what? what's the best way to act in this situation? Help!
2006-12-08 01:57:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well no it's not like that...he works a lot....like 32hrs a week usually...but i just think that if something is important to you u make it a priority...i mean i work too and i manage to do good in school. I don't know...
2006-12-08 03:34:32 · update #1
he seems unmotivated (which is a quality u want in a guy ur serious about). if he is like this in all aspects of his life, always willing to give up rather than try. u might want to consider finding another guy that will pursue dreams and isnt afraid to work at something.
2006-12-08 02:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it might mean more to you then it does to him. Maybe he is feeling like he is in over his head and don't know what to do. Maybe it is just not for him.
I would sit him down and ask him what it is he really wants from life, he may not know right now, he may choose one path, and then switch to another later on in life, what you need to decide is can you handle his decision for him self?
Everyone wants something different out of life, and if he is going to school to only please you or his parents and not for himself, it is just a waste of time and money. He has got to decide what is right and best for him and you have got to decide if you can live with that.
2006-12-08 02:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever just set him down and told him how you really feel and explain to him that you would like for him to do better in school and stop making silly excuses for not going i mean how is he gonna get a good paying jod without a college diploma its going to hurt him bad enough that all he has is his GED he needs a college degree it will make your lives together so much easier
2006-12-08 02:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it be . My boyfriend went back to school and was doing good then decided he didn't want to go them more I pressured him the more he would get mad at me .I let it be and he did what he felt he had to do ,Just be there when you can if he asked for your opinion about it give it to him if not over look it .It is his life.
2006-12-08 02:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Purplepassion9126 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is suited to go college. Some people will just have to settle for menial labor their whole life. If he doesn't apply himself to his studies, tell him not to waist his time and get a menial job... he better start saving his money... it will be tough digging ditches at 60 years old.
2006-12-08 02:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he acts this way to something like studying,(for community college) how do you think he is going to act when something more serious comes up? You should tell him he really needs to study because if he doesnt, he wont pass.
2006-12-08 02:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely if its in straightforward terms 6th grade actual center college does not additionally be counted factor clever... however the adventure with all of that artwork will help you lots interior the long-term. the terrific suggestion i will supply you is get into stable behavior with homework now whilst your youthful because of fact i choose lots i had achieved that, im in severe college yet my behavior are so undesirable and its two times as tricky for me than it would be if i might in basic terms cared and worked extra stable previously. in basic terms settle for it and do the terrific you may yet make certain you hit upon relaxing time common whether its in straightforward terms a nil.5 hour
2016-10-14 06:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him pay for it him self.If he wants to wast his time then let him wast his money to. Ask him why he wants to wast his time like that. He should, at the wores,finish what he started and do the best he can.Maybe he should try a trade school?
2006-12-08 02:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooooo..sweetie I hate to tell you this but you got yourself a lil boy....do you really want to stay in a relationship with someone with no future ahead of him???how about giving him other options on diffrent colleges like what he really wants to be..try those 9 months corse..(medical assistant, pharmacy tech, medical billing..) other then that he just dont want to go to school at all....
2006-12-08 02:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help him study. Take an interest in his school work and show him that it's worthwhile.
2006-12-08 02:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by spoonman419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋