i am 32. we get on. he's massively lovely and really keen for us to turn the friendship into a relationship ..and i just like him. i look and act a lot younger than i am but i feel like i shouldnt' go there. it'sa big age gap that way round..he's not established in a career or anything and a lot of things aren't ideal for what i feel i should go for but we really really click.
or do i just accept that life can be a bit weird and you don't always get what you expect and go with it.
eek. what shall i do??
2006-12-08 01:44:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry. he IS ideal in pretty much everyway (as close as it exists) but cos he's younger he's not established.
but maybe it doesn't matte.r i am. he will be. no he's not a dosser. he's just younger so still climbing the ladder is all
2006-12-08 01:56:49 · update #1
Don't worry about the age thing... No big deal... Plus the older you get the less it becomes an issue...
Though the part about not having a career or anything is disturbing...
That will become an issue and usually is a deal breaker...
I would suggest go for it for now and see what he does...if he still is not going anywhere after a while...let him go...
Good luck!!!
2006-12-08 01:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
6 years is not a big age gap one you are over 18. I specify for younger people who might be reading. My husband is 17 years my junior ans we have a great rrelationship he knows how tot treat me right. But I do understand how you feel I approached him with my feelings and it was scary I thought about it all alot because I had 8 children going into our relationship. If your heart tells you go for it do it. Why let age stop you from wnat may be your intended life time partner. Good luck
2006-12-08 09:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest trying it out. You've never done something like this and relationships are all about experiences right? Go for it. Everyone deserves to be happy and if this man does it for you so be it. We can't always chose who we fall in love with, it just happens.
Enjoy the ride and if by chance it doesn't work out, you'll know better for the next time what to avoid. Good luck!
2006-12-08 09:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Minouners 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't force yourself to feel something that isn't there. If you do have feelings for him that is more then friendly, then yes, I would just accept that life can be different and take it as it comes. But if the only feelings that you have for him is only friendly, then you need to keep it that way, even if it means him taking off. It would not be fair to you or to HIM.
2006-12-08 09:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't have the important qualities that you really want and you're still considering having him then he's a booty call and you may just want to sex him.Don't confuse your intentions because you will end up in a situation later that will be hard to turn around. If he's not qualified to be your man in all ways then he's just some one to sex and be clear to your self and him about the facts.
2006-12-08 09:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My other half is 6 years younger than me, my grandmother was 11 years older than my grandfather. Go with it, it's the best thing that has ever happened to me.
2006-12-08 09:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Strawberry 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
life will be very weird sometimes and you just accept it and fund happiness wherever you can.. i dont hink the age gap matters once you get out of the teen age years. just go for it and at least try for a bit
2006-12-08 09:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by liz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is you really get along age shouldn't matter
take a chance
could be the best thing that ever happened to the both of you
if it works wonderful if not nothing lost
2006-12-08 09:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take what you can get, and enjoy, life is too short to wait for the right guy to come along with the right circumstances at the most opportune time
2006-12-08 09:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you'll never know unless you go!! he could be the man of you're dreams! If you take it slowly you will soon find out but don't just jump straight in or you could ruin your friendship!!
2006-12-08 09:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋