My parent grow us in a well mannerly and christian way in life, but it has been 2 years since I been living on my own, I am not married and working, recently I meet the guy, I told him that I was never intimate with no one before and I am not ready until marriage. He respect my opinion but we romance. Do you think it is wrong to do that. I do not want to commit fornication or go against my religious belief. Can u please advice me. I really need your help.
2006-12-08 01:34:31 · 19 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes , we are not to further temptation. and heavy necking and so on, tend to lead to sex. It is wrong to do that We mst be only getting to know one another in this dating process. We are told to not even give the appearnce of evil. So dont be alone together all the time, and that makes it easier. Focus on getting to know each other, and see if you are on the same page, spiritually as well as other areas. Is this someone you could possiblly spend your life with. ?? find out???? If you dont want to commit fornication, dont. only you choose that, and you can make it an easy decison by prayer, and by not putting yourself in difficult situations. Its wrong also to get someone all worked up and then just say NO. Yes, he still must hear that and obey it. we all can just say NO. period. But, if we care about the one we date, we wont want to put them in difficult situations either, or make it even harder for them to just say No.
Once the sex begins, its all most think about too, and they all stop getting to know each other, the way we should. ou say you arent ready for marriage yet either. OK. so dont ever put yourself in any situation with a man that could lead to further temptations to give in to sex, to someone you wont marry, and arent married to yet. We have a lifetime for that, and its all good. My husband and I waited, and I can tell you, we are so blessed.
You cant ask God to bless your marriage, if you begin it in fornication and disobedeicne. Ask God to bless your marriage when you do marry and begin it with Him being number one in your life and keep Him there. Its surely paradise, and well worth waiting. Let no one or nothing take that from you girl.
All I know that waited are so blessed for it. and keeping God number one in your lives and in every decision is the way to keep it a heaveny marriage. There is no other way. God bless you..
2006-12-08 03:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this romance cause you to be tempted? Is he a christian as well? If you're not sure, be patient. Spend as much time with him in public and not too much in private. If he knows where you stand then you will find out where his heart really is after time. Limit the kissing (if any) to the cheek, and respect each other. Many people say that they're christians, don't get dooped. Just play it safe and God will reveal who he really is in His own timing. If the guy begins to get upset because you won't compromise your values, then you will know that he has self ambitions. It's a thin line, ask God to direct you and give you wisdom so that you won't put yourself in a tough and compromising situation. I'm 25, and it will benefit you in the long run to wait until you get married. Becareful of lust, b/c it will easily slip in to your relationship. And remember the Love of God will never ask you/or force you to do anything that's ungodly.
2006-12-08 01:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by "we romance"If you are speaking of kissing and fondling,then I don't think that's fornicating,but all that could make things harder on the two of you to remain non-sexual physically.I hope you remain without sex until marriage as you were taught ,but make sure when you find the right man the two of you want the same experiences in the marriage bed.Talking about what you'd like to experience before you marry will help the two of you understand what's expected of one another sexually.
2006-12-08 01:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are asking this question you are having sincere conflicts within your soul.
Ask yourself this Question.... In your heart do you feel what you are currently doing is the right thing for YOU.
If there is doubt then stick to your moral teachings.
God created man and woman to be soul mates on this earth and procreate.He knows we are not perfect and is an all forgiving God if we do make a mistake.
If this young man shares the same beliefs as yourself then he will continue to respect what ever decision you make. A relationship is more then sex.. You must first have Respect, then friendship and then love. Good Luck dear.
2006-12-08 01:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
technically by looking at him with a lusty heart you are committing fornication. By the strickest since, you should not even kiss. It boils down to what you believe. I've seen the most Christian women bare-foot and pregnant by the time they are 19 and they think nothing of it. God will love you regardless. That's His promiss. If you believe what you are doing is right, then that's fine. It's called free will and He gave it to us. It sounds like you are mature enough to think about the issue so decide for yourself, what do you want. God will be there regardless.
2006-12-08 02:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by armus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 22 and i feel the same way.
i got with this girl that had a very bad past but said she had changed. wrong!!!! after we were engaged we made the mistake of fornication. biggest regret of my life. no we are not married. she left me 2 months before the wedding after she told me she was sleeping with 4 other guys.
whatever you do, stick to your morals. they are what make you who you are. do not let them slip one bit for anyone!!!!! keep on guard and dont get an any situation that will even be the first step to commiting gross sin.
seriously. it damaged my life ina a way i can never fix
2006-12-08 01:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Steven Colbert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your supposed to keep your purity and he can not live with you or stay with you until marriage. You can go out on a date or hang out and watch movies but absolutely no sexual intimacy at all. He can be your best friend but you have to be careful not to step to close were temptation can take place. Pray and ask the lord for guidance in this matter, and pray to keep you safe from temptation.
2006-12-08 01:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, personally. Other people will tell you absolutely it is wrong. What you have to do is decide for yourself, based on your own interpretation of your religious beliefs. If you feel that you truly love someone, and want to express your love, that's normal and healthy .If you have guilt, maybe you can confess to a priest. If you don't than there is nothing wrong with what it is that you're doing with this guy you love. Priests are told to remain abstinent their whole lives, not everyone else.
2006-12-08 01:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to set up definate boundaries right now. Decide how far you will go and stick to it. No matter how nice and respectful the guy is, there are times when he is going to try to step over the boundaries. Decide what your beliefs are, remind yourself of them several times during the week, and it is up to you to not overstep the boundary or allow him to do so.
2006-12-08 01:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what u call romance. i'm christian too but u can have romance. u just shouldn't do "it" untill ur married. u catch my drift. wait to do that but a kiss every now and then is fine.
2006-12-08 01:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by helloworld987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋