on November 20, 2006, my grandfather past away and my daughter has been asking to see him. I have already told her that he is in heaven with God and Jesus. We cannot see him but we can talk to him and he is watching over us. For the past year and a half we went to the nursing home every weekend to see him.
2006-12-08 01:26:02 · 18 answers · asked by Tina M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try going to the book store or even amazon there are alot of books that can be read to children to help them understand what has happened.
2006-12-08 01:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by benny619 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have done a great job explaining death to a 2 year old but children that young can't actually comprehend what heaven and god is until they are a little older. A good idea would be having a picnic every weekend or bowling day or something you can do regulary now to replace going to the nursing home. She will slowly but surely realize that things have changed and that's just the way things are sometimes but be prepared for more questions as 2 year olds are little sponges trying to learn everything in life. Good luck and again, GREAT JOB!
2006-12-08 09:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by gentlekisses2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You explain it just like you would to an adult who has never heard of death. Our bodies only last so long. Eventually, they stop and the person has to go away. They aren't here anymore.
Don't just do the God and Heaven thing. Kids should understand the basic biological aspects of death, too. She won't really understand at 2, but she will keep adding to that understanding as she gets older. It's not going to make her sad or anything to truly explain why she can't see grandpa anymore. Kids don't work that way.
2006-12-08 09:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this recently...my 3 yr old had a hard time accepting the death of my husband's grandmother...we told her the same thing that you did...that Granny went to live with Jesus in heaven because he needed her help with a special project and that she won't live with us on earth anymore but that she lives in our heart. It took a good month probly before she stopped asking about her Granny..and every now and then she will ask if her Granny is in heaven with Jesus and we just say yes...
2006-12-08 14:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little friend lost his grandfather about 8 months ago and he was so heartbroken. We would find the first star at night and I told him that his Gramp's was there watching over him. During the day we would blow bubbles of love up to him. Remind her how much your grandfather loved her and all of the fun things they talked about or the special time they had. I am sorry about him passing away.
2006-12-08 09:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say we cant see him anymore expect in our hearts and in our dreams. He is in heaven because God needed him more then we do. Tell her that he is playing in the clouds. Kids don't understand death that young. If she had a pet to pass away not to long ago that she remembers tell her he is now taking care of that pet. And let her know that she can still talk to him and he can hear her.
2006-12-08 09:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only two so it is probably hard for her to understand. Tell her something that she understands. Like paw paw went bye bye to heaven.
Be patient she will stop asking in time. I am sorry for your loss.
I hope that everything works out.
Just give her time.
2006-12-08 09:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grampa (or whatever name she called him) moved away. To far away for us to go visit. He has really good hearing so if we talk to him from home he will hear us. If you would like mommy to write him a letter for you we can do this together, you tell me what you would like to say to grandpa....and you two write a letter. This might be more concrete for a child? Take it out put it in the mail box even. Then of course take it out when it is nap time...Save it for her when she grows up.
Something like this? You are lucky she got to meet him! Best wishes to you! I am sorry to hear of your grandfather. I know I miss mine!
2006-12-08 09:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's tough. Tell her grand dad moved far away with God in heaven and the only way to reach him is to pray. Have her send him notes on helium balloons- it helped me with the loss of my best friend. celebrate him with her, don't hide him. show her pictures and videos if you have them and remind her how much he loves her, but that he can't be with her right now. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-08 09:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one, it will be hard for a two year old to understand death...sorry about the loss i lost my grandfather almost a year ago.......this is just something that over time the child will come to understand, i wouldnt give up on trying to explain it to her though
2006-12-08 09:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've done a perfect job of explaining death to a 2-year old. Well done Mom :-)
And on a personal note, I am very sorry for your loss.
2006-12-08 09:28:12 · answer #11 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋