Where or how do I find a girlfriend ?

Question

I'm 22 this year. And still single all this while. I haven't been in a relationship before and I would want to experience it very much. Since I'm the only child from my family, loneliness often creeps in.

I need to widen my circle of friends since most of my friends are guys. Are only clubs the areas to go and find someone ? Or are there better places ? And I feel quite nervous talking to the opposite sex. Another barrier to overcome.

Answer 1

In my eyes it's better not to look because when you don't realize it most of the time it is possible that it just falls into your lap. If you feel the need to look you need to go to places that interest you to find a girlfriend. Such as football, baseball games, coffee houses, concerts, bowling, camps, town organizations, library arcade places, movies, college (so many clubs (organizations) and so many girls). All depends on some of your interest and this could be where you can find a girl that share some of the same interest as you. The clubs and bars are ahhhh, ok.? It takes a lot of trial and error most of the time, although sometimes your lucky (you might find a cute one who is not totally drunk making out with every guy or simply sober), the clubs and bars are cool to have fun, hangout, but girls and guys for that matter can be very sleezy. Nine out of ten times there only looking for one thing, or have low self esteem in themselves and give themselves easily cause they want to feel wanted and some guys and girls use this to their advantage. Wrap it up....if your going to hangout with a person like this. Sometimes it is just best to go out and not expect anything. Have fun and see where the day/night takes you. Sometimes you won't even expect to find someone, who knows maybe she'll make the first move or want to talk to you =) Dress nice, something sleek, or a simple button down shirt or clean shirt, nice hair cut, clean shave or a tad bit scruffy nothing to hairy, where some cologne, not too much (try Curve or AXE body spray), if you don't want to wear cologne than just wear deodorant (preferably AXE deodorant),some crisp jeans and clean sneakers or shoes. This will help build your confidence, you might want to drink or take a shot of some sort of liquor to open you up a little. Even so, just dressing nice will make you feel good about yourself and help gain confidence in yourself. Don't try to impress a girl with "I got this, or Whats Good". Be yourself this is KEY!! Be laid back talk about something that interest both of you it shows that your not only looking for one thing. You can talk about all the drunk people," Look at all these drunk people making a fool of themselves" or dance a little (I'm sure the one beer or shot you had would warm you up). Practice a little bit watch some music videos....etc.... you might find yourself stuttering or a bit nervous, when talking to her but this is kind of good though cause it shows her you like her, if she doesn't even have time for you than you know she's got a bad personality, stuck up/ cocky or that she is just a sl*t (easy) and simply doesn't deserve you move on to the next person. Trial and error is KEY! YOU HAVE TO MAKE MOVES IN ORDER TO SEE CHANGES! GOOD LUCK....YOU'LL THANK ME FOR IT.....I KNOW IT =)

Answer 2

Hello, your current girlfriend may or may not have a point. Consider this: how would you feel if your current girlfriend was spending some time with an ex boyfriend? Even if you would think it is okay she does not, and part of loving a person is considering what makes them feel uncomfortable and doing the opposite. Changing and doing things that another person likes does not necessarily mean that you are changing who you are; it just means that you are taking another persons feelings, likes, or dislikes into consideration. (Normally when in a relationship such as this, this is the case) My advice: Limit your contact with your ex girlfriend. Your ex girlfriend is in your past and your current girlfriend is your present. Am not saying or suggesting you should dismiss your ex girlfriend altogether but your ex should be treated the same way you would treat another guy friend. (it should strictly just be friendship from afar; given the history you guys have with one another.) Hope things work out, and I hope this advice helped.

Answer 3

Just keep waiting and enjoy no attachment. You're number of friends doesn't matter and number of female friends either. Just talk to girls, go on a lot of dates, and you'll find one that will stick around. To get past the talking barrier, the only cure is to walk up to them.
Just walk up to them and say "Hi, my name is ______." Say it like you own the place. Then ask if she came with her friends or something and ask about her friends. Then you can ask how her day was or something. Be funny, make jokes or at least make her smile but LISTENING is most important. After a few minutes, when you know she is interested say, "It was great to meet you but I got an early morning tomorrow and need to go. How bout I give you a call sometime and we get together in some place where we don't have to yell over the music?" Then leave and go home or to another bar. Wait a day or two, not three or it is too late and call and set something up. Should be lunch or coffee. Second date is an activity that is fun.

Answer 4

Surround yourself with friends and don't worry too much about a girlfriend. I don't have a boyfriend, yeah i get lonely sometimes but i'm waiting for the right person to walk into my life. Don't be nervous about talking to girls. Hey, we are just as nervous talking to you. Tell me about it! I really don't recommend looking for a soulmate in a club. It depends what kind of girlfriend you want. Someone will come into your life, don't worry. You won't be a bachelor for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

You going to think I am a Jesus freak or something. But I am Not ! You can find a nice girl in church. Your looking for a long term relationship right? that's is the best place to find one. Almost all the people(male and female) I know that go to the club are looking for one night thing.

Answer 6

Try Girlfriends R' Us. I think they are having a 2-for-1 sale this weekend.

Answer 7

I'm 22 and single also. Don't beat yourself up. Normally you can find yourself a watering hole (without drinking for real) and just make your presence known. Some of the regulars might take notice of your random showing, and the girls might say "Who's the new guy?"

From there, you're in your own ball game, buddy.

Answer 8

start talking to anyone, just make small talk like hi, how are you? try finding people you have things in common with. remember to stay relaxed. as for finding a girlfriend you can find one almost anywhere. clubs, online, dating sites, pool halls.

Answer 9

if you want a quick fumble in the toilets, a club is your best bet.

if you want a girlfriend, join a club or association which you are interested in. you will likely meet someone there who you share a common interest with and you can start to build a friendship which can lead to more. good luck

Answer 10

i would say go to a coffee house, the library, a bar is better than a club, the grocery store, the mall, a college event......just think about a place where the type of girl you want would hang out often. do you want a party girl, or a more reserved girl with a little bit of a party side......most often, where you find a girl, thats the kind of girl she is going to be......hope this helps........oh and dont start of thinking that you automatically want a serious relationship.....just let it happen, dont force it........good luck!