My fiance starts fights for no reason..then tries to blame me for starting the fight.. While the argument is going on, he says "If you dont want me here, I'll move out".. WTF.... He's always accusing me of talking to people online, which is not true.. He is here when I'm on the computer, and he's always asking what I'm doing, so there for he knows I'm not talking to anyone. He's been the one who has cheated before, so I think its just his guilty conscience.. He just always tries to make me look like the bad person in our relationship..All I do is go to work and come home and take care of the kids, and cook dinner. I dont know what else to do about this. I dont think I can take much more of this fighting over stupid ****.. By the way I'm 33 and he's 43.. What should I do... Give up? or try to work this **** out.. We have been together for 7 yrs, and its only getting worse...Serious Answers only please...
2006-12-08 01:22:27 · 21 answers · asked by Indymom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would definately start to question my relationship. Because he cheated o you, he could have an underlying fear that you may have a "free ticket" to cheat on him (even though you know yourself that you wouldn't) and that is where the distrust lies. I suggest that you sit down with him and seriously tell him just how serious this situation is, and that if he doesn't calm down and give you some trust and respect, that you will leave. Another option you can look into is councelling. Maybe that will teach him some respect and instill some trust in him. You final option I guess would be just to have him leave. If he says again, "if you don't want me here, then I'll move out..." and you have tried talking ato him and he just doesn't change, say "0k, see ya..." and let him go.
2006-12-08 01:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Julez81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure you are right...if he cheated before, then it's his guilty conscience. I have been in a similar relationship before, and let me tell you...this is not a good sign. More than likely, he is either trying to get out of the relationship--but trying to make it your fault because he can't be man enough to do it. OR, he is doing bad things behind your back and trying to make you think you're crazy by blaming you for things you aren't even doing. If you really love him and want to try to work it out, I would suggest to him that you guys go to counseling. If he doesn't agree---leave his a s s, he's bad news! Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-08 01:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an overbearing azzhole to me. Pretty much all guys who are like that, stay like that. Especially if he's 43. Go to a marriage counselor or get a divorce. There is no grey area in this matter. It's in your childrens' best interest. Parents who fight all the time only cause psychological problems for young minds down the line.
2006-12-08 01:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Low Key 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had jeoulsy issues. And is probably pretty protective. Those are signs that a man may take it a step farther to keep you in control; you'd better watch it, or he'll be physically abusing you soon, if he hasn't already.
It sounds like he has some serious issues. Do you think he would go to counselilng? Maybe anger management classes? If he won't do that for you, you should leave him. It's a small thing to ask if he truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you .
2006-12-08 01:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by A.C.Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes stubborn at his stand and obviously there is no possiblity for success of an open talk.
So i think you can either have a councilling session with him bcoz talking in presence of a councilor always helps the talk to proceed in a right direction and end it constructively. Else if you think its not worthy trying then there is no point in continuing.
2006-12-08 01:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men usually don't initiate breakups coz they don't wanna be the bad guy so they become difficult to make us so miserable we end up doing the breaking up....it is gonna be really hard, and singlehood can be tough. Arguing alot with someone who has cheated before and suspects you of cheating....how long would you like to play along? Do you need him to provide? You know the answer, girl!
2006-12-08 01:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by SYL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats doesnt sound good....maybe you should sit down and have a serious talk with him....maybe hes worried that you may go out and find some one whos not 10 years older then you....im only 16 but i was with a guy 7 years older then me n thats how he was ALL the time...i couldnt take it anymore so we just ended it...think about it..hope i helped just a little
2006-12-08 01:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by lil_loca_0410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 33 does not mean that you 'work on' a relationship. It only means that you know what you want. And by the sound of things you do not want this. The choice is yours. If you choose him you know what type of life would he provide. And if you don't, the world is at your disposal.
2006-12-08 01:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Aim4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he looking to see you with someone else,or maybe he is guilty for what he so he has to blame someone for his behavior.You know when girl get their period they eat chocolate. while guys.loose something or go though their depression and they drink. I Think he's trying to control you.And you guys have a 10 year different between you guys. Sounds like you need some time to yourself,go hang out with your friends and enjoy.
2006-12-08 01:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by parisnikkivager 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for you.. men never change (let alone 43-year-olds)... he is playing mind games with you.. have you considered he may be having an affair and attempting to keep you in the dark by accusing you of lying about who you talk to. look up "respect" in the dictionary and find a man who will love you... if you tolerate this, your children will be next
2006-12-08 01:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by wisewoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋