2006-12-08 01:16:47 · 18 answers · asked by Meggie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, not customary - but,
you may wish to send a short thanx to those who send flowers . . . donations to organizations are usually acknowledged, back to the family, from the organization - and you may wish to thank these folks, also.
2006-12-08 01:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been to many funerals and memorial services and have never received a thank you just for attending. Where I live, only people who send money, or flowers or do some other nice thing receives a thank you. However, if you want to thank all, there is nothing wrong with it. You are very thoughtful! I'm sorry about your mom.
2016-05-23 06:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but have you ever attended a funeral? Wake? Did you get a thank-you card? Did you feel offended? I have attended many, I don't think I ever got a written thank you, a verbal one for sure, but never felt offended no matter what happened regarding thank you. There are more important things to worry about, like fighting over the leftover furniture, silverware, and TVs.
2006-12-08 01:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Guy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is considered customary to send to the people who send flowers, but not to all who attend the service.
2006-12-08 01:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by bravodog 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to people who attend, but to anyone that sent flowers, brought food to the house, or made a charitable donation in memory of the deceased.
2006-12-08 01:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice gesture, but hey, you are at a very hard time in your life. If I didn't get one for signing my name on a guest register, I wouldn't get my feelings hurt.
My sister, however, is much more put out by this - she won't send my kids a birthday card anymore, because at some point, each one has failed to send her a thank you note.
2006-12-08 01:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by guitar teacher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not unless they send something or make a donation in honor of the deceased.Although some people choose to put a general thank you in the memorial section of their newspaper.
2006-12-08 01:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2nd time I've seen this one! I'd say only if they send flowers or brought food, but you have to assume that they did it out of the goodness of their hearts, and not because they wanted or expected a thank-you. You're grieving, and if they're nice enough to send flowers or bring food, they don't expect anything in return.
2006-12-08 02:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... You thank them for giving... and for sending... and for support... It is weird but it help both you and them in healing... however most will not be offended if you don't send it quickly...
When my father pasted we as a family sat and wrote out the thank yous... and included special notes to each person... it helped a little...
I am sorry for your loss...
2006-12-08 01:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by lblakker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would, but then again i send thank-you cards for everything. the way i see it, you are thanking them for their comfort at a time that you need it most. if you don't send thank yous to every one you need to send them to the peole that sends flowers, money and/or cards. good luck and i'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-08 01:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋