I dont really understand whats going on. When im around good friends, or any person who brings the best of me out, i feel great and i can do anything and have no worries-life is great. That feeling will last for a few hours/days and then i come back to being kinda depressed, anxious, low self esteem, dont want to do anything, etc. In 25 now, but i remember back since i was very very young always being very afraid of being alone, id cry or panic when my father left my side even for a minute. I also was very shy for most of my life. I rememeber a few times in high school i would think "what if the friends i have now are not really my friends and just setup friend by my parents". I knew completely that this was irrationanal but now i realize that it was just me feelign like i couldnt do it on my own.
All i want is to have my own self esteem, own confidence. I want to wake up and feel great about the day and what im going to do. I never really had the chance in life to be that.
2006-12-08 01:01:24 · 6 answers · asked by Drew S 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
T hats called depression, did you know that more than 96% of the united states suffers from some kind of depression. ya its true so just remember this you,r not alone and there is always someone out there suffering just like you and they are more than likely always looking for someone to help them threw it to . so if ever you need to talk about it contact me sincerely me....
2006-12-08 01:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by angelblossom1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Drew,
Your 25 doesn't have anything to do with sadness/depression when alone. But not working through childhood fears, not taking the time to get to know yourself, self evaluation and setting life goals are important to give your life direction and meaning.
The truth is many people suffer from depression. Not everyone needs meds, but talking with a professional counselor, even mental health hotline can provide you some relief. I tend to exercise, just recently started yoga which has been really relaxing and stretching muscles that I was allowing to get out of shape. Exercise makes for positive endorphins which takes the sadness away.
Do you like to write? Maybe journaling your feelings and emotions will help you too? Don't suffer in silence. Learning to be comfortable with yourself takes time and work. So start small and work on a aspect of you. Find your likes, dislikes... and stop trying to please the world. Your a unique, probably a remarkable 25 yr old man who has so much of his future ahead of him. Choose wisely your friends and secure your future. Remember depression is an illness and nothing shameful. Love yourself enough to take care of you.
2006-12-08 01:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, Drew.
I really think that a professional would help you best. This is a difficult thing to advise on without that beautiful piece of paper they call a degree. :0)
You are correct in saying that it is a self esteem issue.....possibly rooted to childhood trauma. It also sounds as if depression is playing a major part or your current 'swings' as well.
Without a shrink there are a few things you can do for yourself. Add more sunlight to your day. Go to the local natural health food store (not a GNC)...you could just be missing several trace minerals and vital vitamins. When you wake and are not excited....before you go to the restroom tell yourself three things that will be fantastic about your day.
I've been meds free for almost 2 years......those are all little tricks that I use.
Good luck...take care
2006-12-08 01:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow aside from the smoking part and being childish thats my life right now. My friends still like me but i never seem good enough for them. Im always the backup if there favorite person is busy. I will be walking with my friends in the hallway and they make up some lie to leave me and go talk about something they dont want me to know. Just today i was supposed to have someone comeover but last night she texted me that she couldnt come and i knew it was a lie because my other friend all of a sudden had plans that she couldnt tell me about so she basically lied to me and left me for somone else. I keep a smile on though because im going to be the better person. My friends seem like social climbers to me they are very judgemental and harsh which is hard to deal with. Im just waiting for a true friend to fall into the picture! may you and me both have luck with this ordeal!
2016-05-23 06:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely an extravert, which aids you when you are around people. However, your problem seems to stem from a fear of being alone, and mention self esteem issues as the problem.
I would suggest some sort of counseling to get at why you feel the way you do. I am sure that some factor in your early life is the cause of your irrational fear of being alone.
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2006-12-08 04:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋