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I have this obsession with my looks that makes me think that I'm so ugly, I will get dumped at anytime no matter how good the guy is to me. I'm obsessed with getting money for surgey. I dream of winning the lottery so I can fix myself and it consumes my whole day from wakeing till sleeping. I'm convinced that my many flaws will make a guy lose interest in me at any moment. It is to the point that Im not sure I even want to be in a serious relationship because the stress is too great. What should I do? I dont want to me this crazy.

2006-12-08 00:50:21 · 29 answers · asked by johannacass@sbcglobal.net 2 in Health Mental Health

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I don't know which of the above this is, however, it is important that you recognize that this isn't healthy. I recommend some counseling. If you go to a church, they might be able to provide something very cheap and helpful to you.
I sometimes feel a little of what you describe, however, it is different for me because I am a guy and society doesn't place as much weight on my looks. It is important to recognize that society determines what is and what isn't pretty. Society is often wrong. Although many men would say otherwise, inner beauty is more attractive in a long term relationship than outer beauty. My recommendation is to work on your inner self first. Once you feel good about yourself, then if you still want to change the way you look, go for it. But without good self respect, it won't matter what surgery you have.
Good luck and God Bless!

2006-12-08 00:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by AT 5 · 0 0

It doesn't sound like classic bipolar disorder. You most certainly sound depressed. You definitely exhibit and obsession with your looks -- and some perception that you don't measure up to some standard you can't objectively define.

Just accept yourself. You are what you are and your looks is what they is.

Stressing yourself out instead of dressing and using cosmetics to please yourself is really a tangential view of what you are.

Yeah, I'm no beauty myself -- but I don't get all in a snit that people don't ooh and ah like they do over Brad Pitt ...

You have to come to some median level where you accept who you are. Beauty is too subjective to be holding yourself to an impossible standard.

Who you are is much more important than how you look by and large. Anybody just looking for a trophy isn't worth your time.

Don't deprive yourself something meaningful by magnifying a flaw which may not even be there in the eyes of another.

Therapy is nice -- but you just need to be you and accept and respect yourself. How you conduct your personal life will radiate through to those who really matter.

2006-12-08 01:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

From what you describe, none of these. It sounds like you have low self esteem and are obsessed with your looks becuase you don't think you're good enough on the outside or maybe have a misconcepted view that this is what's most important in life. This can lead to depression- you feel down all the time, you want to cry about everything, you don't sleep, or sleep all of the time, you're incapable of having happy moments, and if you do, they're gone in 15 minutes... you should google OCD and bipolarism to get a better understanding... what you described is not even close to what these conditions are. Cheer up, do what you can with what you have and work on who's inside (that's a problem that happens frequently in people- they may be good looking, but on the inside they're unsure of themselves or need a little sprucing up on their personality so they don't rely solely on looks). If you're a little on the... soft side, work out more and tone up- you'll feel mentally better... if you have acne, try a good face regiment... try new clothes... try respecting who you are for who you are...

2006-12-08 00:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0 1

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, OCD, is an anxiety disorder and is characterized by recurrent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and/or repetitive behaviors (compulsions). Repetitive behaviors such as hand washing, counting, checking, or cleaning are often performed with the hope of preventing obsessive thoughts or making them go away. Performing these so-called "rituals," however, provides only temporary relief, and not performing them markedly increases anxiety.
People with OCD may be plagued by persistent, unwelcome thoughts or images, or by the urgent need to engage in certain rituals. They may be obsessed with germs or dirt, and wash their hands over and over. They may be filled with doubt and feel the need to check things repeatedly.
So from what you said I would think you are not OCD. But you do need some help. With any luck some day you can have the thought that if they don't want to be with you , it is their loss !! It could also be , that you are only finding Mr. Right now instead of MR. Right for you. I was 30 before I found mine, it takes time!! Good Luck !!

2006-12-08 01:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kit 4 · 0 1

i dont think its ocd or bipolar. because you havent mentioned symptoms of either. it is depression. i am the same way just not quite as bad. i used to want surgery and if i can afford it then i still would but i'm 18 and have a man that loves me for me. and thinks i'm beautiful. to me i'm just pretty. if you keep thinking about your looks and surgery and thinking a guy will dump you or lose interest it's not for that reason because he went out with you because he thought you were attractive. if he loses interest it will be due to something else. you'll go crazy trying to get the money for surgery and thats not healthy. keep your head up and dont be too hard on yourself.

2006-12-08 00:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

2016-05-15 23:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It isn't bi-polar disorder or depression from what you describe. If you're under 20 then it's just teenage insecurities; you will grow out of it. OCD is characterized by checking and double-checking a door lock, for example, and/or fixating on tiny things such as a the lines in the corner of a picture for example. I don't think you have that either based on the above explanation. I'm no doctor, but my diagnosis is the teenage insecurites that eveyone experiences. Good Luck!

2006-12-08 00:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by stklotto 4 · 1 1

I think you have ocd and low self-esteem. The good guy is going to look past the looks because hes going to go for your heart. You should definitely seek some help for your obsession and your depression. Nobody in this world is perfect. Be happy with who you are. You really need to work on your self-esteem, because I'm pretty sure you are deeply a genuine great person and to me thats what counts

2006-12-08 00:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Peaches22 2 · 0 1

OCD, Bipolar/ Bipolar melancholy, upload are all interior the same area of the DSM IV that's the diagnosing gadget for psychological ailment. temper swings at the instant are not a demonstration of bipolar. To be bipolar you could have sustained MANIA classes which you lose administration, have racing concepts that seem speedier than you could communicate and are thoroughly reckless and careless. You curiously are very hung up on looking meaning on your habit that may not be yours to very own. on the same time as you seem obsessed to that element, it would help to verify a counselor and pay attention it from them. this could calm your frantic concepts. you could have administration over your habit sufficient to the place you at the instant are not "punching partitions". or you could properly be a psychopath: features of a Psychopath you slot a brilliant number of those: superficial allure self-based & self-significant choose for stimulation & carriers to boredom deceptive habit & mendacity conning & manipulative little experience sorry approximately or guilt shallow emotional reaction callous with a loss of empathy residing off others or predatory approach unfavorable potential of will promiscuous sexual habit early behavioral issues loss of sensible long term goals impulsive existence-variety irresponsible habit blaming others for their strikes short term relationships

2016-10-17 23:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by lander 4 · 0 0

Hello, sounds like OCD. Are you taking medication for this? If not, go see a therapist who can enable you to get the help you need.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder; more specifically, it is an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but it is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive, distressing, intrusive thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.

The phrase "obsessive-compulsive" has worked its way into the wider English lexicon, and is often used in an offhand manner to describe someone who is meticulous or absorbed in a cause. Such casual references should not be confused with obsessive-compulsive disorder; see clinomorphism. It is also important to distinguish OCD from other types of anxiety, including the routine tension and stress that appear throughout life. A person who shows signs of infatuation or fixation with a subject/object, or displays traits such as perfectionism, does not necessarily have OCD, a specific and well-defined condition.

To be diagnosed with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, one must have either obsessions or compulsions alone, or obsessions and compulsions, according to the DSM-IV-TR diagnostic criteria. The Quick Reference to the diagnostic criteria from DSM-IV-TR (2000) describes these obsessions and compulsions:

Obsessions are defined by:

Recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress.
The thoughts, impulses, or images are not simply excessive worries about real-life problems.
The person attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, impulses, or images, or to neutralize them with some other thought or action.
The person recognizes that the obsessional thoughts, impulses, or images are a product of his or her own mind.
Compulsions are defined by:

Repetitive behaviors or mental acts that the person feels driven to perform in response to an obsession, or according to rules that must be applied rigidly.
The behaviors or mental acts are aimed at preventing or reducing distress or preventing some dreaded event or situation; however, these behaviors or mental acts either are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or prevent or are clearly excessive.
In addition to these criteria, at some point during the course of the disorder, the sufferer must realize that his/her obsessions or compulsions are unreasonable or excessive. Moreover, the obsessions or compulsions must be time consuming (taking up more than one hour per day), cause distress, or cause impairment in social, occupational, or school functioning (Quick Reference from DSM-IV-TR, 2000). OCD often causes feelings similar to that of depression.


Hope this helps

Good luck

2006-12-08 00:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by dymps 4 · 0 2

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