"I work in a company as an Operations Assistant (am my boss's right hand)and I am very happy.However,my boss has mainly male co-workers.I have met one of them(who is very cute and seems very nice person)the other day when he came to visit my boss for a meeting here in our office.Since then whenever he calls and i pick up the phone...he keeps on making very flattering compliments to me, asking me where i usually hang out etc...I have a boyfriend already(3 months together), but now,whenever i come at work i can't wait for this guy to call!! I think i like him but i feel very weird about this...I am happy with my boyfriend(even if he lives miles away)...what is wrong with me?? " THIS WAS ONE OF MY PREVIOUS QUESTIONS.
Further to the above,the guy called just now!!!And i just can't hide my enthousiasm!!!He has a very sweet voice and he is saying his compliments in a sexy way...He asked me if am in love with anybody indirectly AND I DIDN'T SAY YES!!!!!I said no... AM WORRIED!Pls advise
2006-12-08 00:47:06 · 22 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lustful feelings! Be honest with this guy and tell him that your in a relationship for the last 3 months. You'd be suprized at how much respect you get. Let him know it puts a smile on your face when he calls, friends are always nice to have. Honesty is ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY!
2006-12-08 00:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, it's nice and flattering, however, i've "dipped my ink in the company's well" on a few occasions and i can assure you that it has NEVER worked out for me.
also, you sound like you're in a pretty corporate environment and i can assuer you that this is a bad deal.
it is very exciting to have someone interested in you and it is thrilling when it's someone who is a bit off limits.
perhaps your bf makes you feel good and safe and secure and this guy is making you feel exciting and vibrant.
it's o.k. that you feel this way and what you do is ultimately your choice.
however, i've been burned by company affairs and so have a few of my friends.
so, be careful and cautious, however, you only live once, so if your bf isn't the love of your life, then enjoy the attention, but be careful how far things go.
take care:)
2006-12-08 01:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there must be a real reason why you are even attracted to this new guy. You will have to take a long hard look at your current relationship to figure out what is lacking that would make you interested in another man. There is also an excitement in having someone flatter you.
However, from personal experience, I dated someone that I worked with and it was a really bad decision. I don't know how often you come in contact with this man, but trust me, it is a HUGELY BAD idea to date anyone you work with or come in contact with often at work. If things don't work out, it could potentially ruin your job, your work relationships with co-workers, etc.
It's really not worth it. If you didn't say yes about loving anyone, please ask yourself why? There is something you need to figure out. You owe it to yourself, your boyfriend, and anyone you would become involved with romantically.
Good luck.
2006-12-08 00:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you're in a difficult situation.
You don't want to cheat on your boyfriend. If you don't want to leave him, then really ONLY be his girl. Try to avoid contact with this other gentleman. Just let him know, that you no longer wish to receive calls from him any more. Or tell him straight out what your feelings for him are, but that you have decided not to act on them because you want to be true to your boyfriend.
Or think about breaking up with your boyfriend. Tell him that you could not help falling for another guy. And therefor want to break it off, before it spins out of controle.
That's just some of your options.
I'm afraid there'll be some pain no matter what you choose.
But what ever you do, be true.
And follow your heart...
Good luck.
2006-12-08 00:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by StormyWeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with your boyfriend for 3 months. Have you committed yourself openly to him? If you have then you really have no other choice but to break up with him and pursue this other person. Did you current boyfriend make you feel this way too? If not then your choice is obvious. If he did, then it might not be the guy you are excited about, it may very well be the new attention. Once you answer these questions to yourself, you will know what you have to do.
2006-12-08 00:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U already said u were happy with ur b/f but he lives miles way...
to me u just made it look like it was a hardship to see him. This other guy so what if u think he is cute i have a b/f and i thik plenty of guys sre cute of course i don't tell him that....anyways is this guy at the office...i mean do u get to see him alot does he live close by ? i think that u really like this guy at ur office so go for it but what ever you do don't cheat on them b/c thati slike really low and not cool at all. what ever your choice is i am sure it will good
just don't the the guy at the office hanging if u are um....going 2 say yes to him tell him if u r going 2 say no tell him!!!
2006-12-08 00:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is hardly a long-term relationship. You obviously are done with the boyfriend. Say good bye to him and hello to the work guy.
Be careful though. I once was in a similiar situation and after breaking up with my boyfriend, I discovered the the new guy was just a player.
2006-12-08 01:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing. Falling for someone at work is never easy, especially since you have a bf. Remember the grass is always greener one the other side. If you are happy with your bf don't risk it. Hey, if it doesn't work out with your bf then maybe you should consider it. Put pictures of your bf on your desk so he'll get the hint without getting hurt and talk about your bf alot too. Again, I feel for you. Good luck and keep us posted!
2006-12-08 00:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by bhbghgjbvmnbncvb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. If you have feelings like this now than you probably aren't ready to settle down right yet. Better to find out now, than when you are married, that you still want to view the pasture. You are always going to wonder about it and probably end up messing up your relationship anyways because you realize you aren't ready for such a commitment yet. Not to say you will never be but don't rush into it because you will not be happy later. Do it now before you are married and unhappy later.
2006-12-08 02:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf lives miles away which means you barely have any physical relationship with him.When we are in love(without any physical commitment),our hormones are at all time high and so is our sexual drive.Our body needs to be satisfied sexually.When we are desperate we tend to draw our attention to other attractive men who are interested in us.Here the reason is purely hormonal.Both men and women are desperate due to pre- orgasm anticipation and we are forced to make bad decisions coz of this.I suggest you to get back with your bf as soon as possible to release sexual tensions or masturbate and reach post orgasm satisfaction stage.This will help you to keep your desires under check and certainly will resist you from falling for other attractive men.
2006-12-08 01:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋