Im soo sad and frustrated for soo many things. For example, if i stop workin , i will have to break up with my long distance love,..... if i leave him i would not know what to do.... cuz hes a great support to me and my real love. I am going deficient in school because i am working. My job takes me alot of time that it can be add to school schedule but i cant stop working cuz as long i transfered career .. i have to cover my own spends (ie. materials, books, etc etc)
whats the best i can do??
my bf, who is from the states (i'm dominican), wants to get marry with me (bc we loved each other alot ) and he's asking me to dont stop working... to wait... cuz he will take me the states and he will help me out. I sure believe him but i dont want him to get in charge in all facts about me. i wanna be independient too (50/50)...
what can i do ? i have couple days without sleeping right thinking about this :(
2006-12-08 00:37:28 · 10 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep doing what you are doing and when you move to the states you can transfer to another college and hopefully take a break from working if he is willing to support you. Obtaining an education is a great sacrifice, however, in the long haul, it will be so very valuable and worth the cost. Hang in there and be strong. And turn it over to God, he has a way of making a way out of no way. Pray and ask and believe, he will take care of it, if you allow him to. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-08 00:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one big brotherly hug to u, i know how u feel coz from the past 6years i am in an online relationship and lately i am also into the same lifestyle as u are coz i need to manage our future and not be dependent on others mercy.
I have 6more months for another graduation, January il be enrolling for a PG, after college i work as a manager and mid January onwards im startin my own company. My fiance moved to HongKong for work and very soon we plan to get settled.
Now what u need to do is tell urself that what u are doing is for ur own good and for a good future. Its tough i know but cmon u are already so far and uve shown so much courage and strength dont give up now, its just a little longer. Remember education will bring u good in the world and love will bring u a meaningful life and a family, which no riches or wealth can.
The trick is in time managment, and u can ignore work a little in emergencies and focus on education coz after education u will get a better job either here or in States and tat job who ever get it, u will be working so dont think he gets the job so he;s in charge. The more u worry the more tense u will be and u will not think logically, so manage time and i tell u if its true love its worth all the hardships. I manage to rest sometimes for 20 mins to less then 4hrs. So trust me if its true love u can do it.
2006-12-08 09:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tanu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if the guy really loves you, he won't force you to stop working.
He'll understand that yes he's allowed to take care of you but right now becaue of the distance, he can't and you are just happy to work to support yourself.
If your job is causing you problems with your school work where you're falling back try not to do so many things in one day.
Look at your work schedule andschool schedule.
NEVER EVER plan for every minute of the day...
as human beings, we are likely to shut down, be late, be tired, be sick.
There's no such thing as being a perfect human being but you can try your best at being the best you can be.
About the school and job situation.. find out from your course administrator about options for school where you'll have less classes to take per year.
And withthe job... try working less days.. sit down and explain the situation to your boss and see if he or she is willing to help.
In the meantime, you can also start searching for a job that will suit your present needs.
I know it can be hard, especially when you have no one there to support you but I will pray that everything works for the best with you.
Cheers and luv
ily!
2006-12-08 08:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by ilyena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he a well to do person? I mean if he is financially stable and you told him the whole story then he is able to give you support so as not to loose your career as far as studies is concerned, give up the job if is willing to finance you some where that is how you judge a caring partner unless when is not working then you have to look for a non tasky job just to earn you a living. Dont be stressed dear.
2006-12-08 08:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by ConRob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to work and study at the same time.
But it is possible.
If your b/f is your real love and a great support to you as you claim, then what is the problem with him giving you advice???
There is nothing wrong with a women following her man's advice. It doesn't make you less of an individual.
He knows you better than us.
He can help you better than what we can.
If he's really your love and support, then listen to him.
2006-12-08 08:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Louw D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love never breaks down the other things that are important in your life. It works to support your other values and things. Something is wrong if you feel you "have to" do anything to keep the relationship. He should be there for you as you are.
2006-12-08 08:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stay i n school and work when you are not in school. It will be hard but you can do it! You can't rely on him or anyone else. If you are MEANT TO BE you will be when the time is right. Put you first! Not him or love.
2006-12-08 08:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you go to school full time, you should have atleast two days you work then on weekends too... good luck...
2006-12-08 08:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Promise 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart do what will make you happy.
2006-12-08 08:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart,, what is it telling you to do???? you listen to your heart and nothing else
2006-12-08 08:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by skull 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋