She has been really busy alot for the past few weeks, and i rarely get to see her, she has asked for space, whcih i am providing, bt is she slipping from my fingers? ive done as much as i can to support her, while im studying aswell, but we go to different colleges, how do i convince her that i am always here and i love her to bits and show her what shes missing, since we havnt been spending time together for the past 2/3 weeks.....something more than words....?
2006-12-08 00:21:20 · 15 answers · asked by Farpandaaaaaa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are offering your share of love by giving her space she desired.She will truely appreciate you for your respect and understanding.Just chill.She will be back to you when she is free enough to spend plenty of time with you.Meanwhile,just be there for her and support her the way you do.
2006-12-08 00:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can give her is space. This is a really stressful time of year in college. She is probably studying and saying goodbye to her new friends for Christmas. Really, she probably needs the space. You don't want to smother her.
Are you losing her? I don't know. People change when they go away to college. You need to take it one day at a time. You should be meeting new people as well at your college. You don't want to isolate yourself from people because you have a girlfriend at another school. Have some fun with friends.
If you want to share something with her that is tangible, why not send her a care package in the mail with things you know she likes. Put in there some snacks, some new pencils/pens, a CD of music she likes or relaxing music, and some lotion or candles. Those will help her take a little bit of time for her while being so busy. Then write her a note that says you respect her space, but you love her,are thinking of her, and hope that she takes some time for herself. (See how that is not clingy at all....don't go on and on about how much you love her....that might irritate her.)
I would love to get something like this sent to me!!!!!
Good luck!
2006-12-08 08:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone is backing away, it is because they are unhappy or are geniunely feeling overwhelmed with the situation.
As shes claiming that she's busy and stuff, it could be that she can't mentally fit in your relationship into her head. When women are stressed about work, it can manifest itself into other areas of her life.
Alternatively when someone backs off in a relationship, the other unconsciously becomes a little clingy.
So, either give her a ring and say, look, your backing off a bit, I don't want to sound naggy or anything, but what's wrong? Talk to me, because you mean a lot to me and if there's something wrong with us, I need to know.
Don't be whiney, or pushy. If she doesn't really want to answer, then say to her that this isn't fair on you. You like her and your being left in the dark about something, and your feeling a little bit edgy.
If she is stressed though and its just that, buy the girl a dinner out or a trip to a gig or the theatre, she needs a break and let her hair down with her fabulous, caring blokey! :)
2006-12-08 08:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a card saying 'Just thinking about you' (not an e-card, a good paper card)
If she asked for space, it could mean a lot of things - are you two through? Give her more time, then talk about it. If she's through with you, there may not be much you can do about it.
Or she's just busy and needs space perhaps.. if so, you shouldn't get on her nerves..
So, a sweet card could help I hope.
Whatever it is, tell her you'll always be there for her when she needs you, no matter what, if at all, as a Great Friend.
Really depends on the situation.
God bless :)
2006-12-08 08:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most time when some one ask for space that I have seen was because they have someone else occupying there time .Not everyone but most ,that is .
I'm sure this is not what you wish to read but it's true.
That will cause mixed feelings for the person asking for space and one person to get hurt.
It would be better to give you a honest answer then to say I need space so that way You would know what direction to focus on in Your life.
2006-12-08 08:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space, try sending some flowers with a message like "Just to let you know I'm here"
Don't get too pushy or you will push her away
2006-12-08 08:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dnt think shes slippin away, shes prob stressed coz of crimbo and stuff. just send her a tx sayin, ''i knw u want space but im here always, even for the silly lil things'' and tx her everyday sayin 'goodmorning beautiful' when u wake up and 'goodnight baby' when you go to bed, that way she will knw shes da first thing u think of and da last wen u go to bed. she may not say anything back but i can assure u she will be smilin inside. i just melt wen my guy does that
2006-12-08 08:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the more you try the more you will push her away
when someone asks for space it usually isnt good
so listen to the fact that she has asked and just see what happens
yes you love her but you may be just a bit much if you know what i mean.....
good luck
2006-12-08 08:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she really deserves the space she asked for probably cuz she's stressed. having a bf can be stressful you know. anyway, send her a note or call her and tell her that you miss her bunches and that she should please try to call you. but dont make it seem like you are pestering her or she'll be mad
2006-12-08 08:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by bibi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and ask her how things are, since you haven't seen much of her lately. tell her that you miss being with her as much and that you are right there if she ever needs anything. and that you love her.
2006-12-08 08:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋