how do i let go and move on?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 and half years and we have a son. But we broke up and now were back together but I feel as if i don't want him anymore! But he calls and tell me how much he loves me and how he wants to be a family again! I don't get it because he broke up with me and than he starts calling me telling me he wants me back!!! And to top it off he trys to hurt my feelings by calling me when he's drunk telling me he slept with 3 girls and uhuhu it just got me soo mad!! The next day he called but I didn't answer it! The next night he called soo i answered and he automatically started apologizing for what he said. I asked if it was true and he said he said it to hurt me!!! Can you beleive that!! But we're back together but we still don't live together ...yet! He didn't come home yet! And I don't think I want him anymore! but he really wants to work it out and be family again! But i want to let him go!!!! How do i do that without wrecking our family and his feelings

Answer 1

U got to start thinking of ur own feelings. Just bcuz u have kids doesn't mean it's gonna work.And i think it would be best for ur kids to just stay seperated.Kids don't like to see their parents fight and be upset and I don't think u should put them though that. U should just come out and tell him and let him go. He will get over it in time and u will too. Ur feelings are the feelings that really matter. If ur not happy then u wont have a happy family...

Answer 2

What about your sons emotional well being in this matter? Children are never to young to understand. Sure you want whats best for you, but your son has to hear all the s--- in between break-ups and reuniting? I have three children, I know first hand how this type of situation effects kids. I argued so much with my sons father, then it got violent. My kids witnessed the violence one early morning when he finally decided to come home drunk. Thats what it took to leave him for good. Seven months later he got visitation of the kids and I got full custody. Three years after that he died in a car accident.He was the passenger, his best friend drinking and driving. Now I have a very confused little boy. The trivial bs between the parents effects the kids more than you realize sometime. Please for your sons sake make the right decisions. Put your son first in all that you do, he will be there always. Take care hope this helps.

Answer 3

It will be best to leave him alone for a long while,let him get his act together make him work harder for you and his child. Pay attention to his actions he is not back home for a reason. It will be easier for you to be the one to move on and burst his bubble like he did yours since he is the one that wants you back, tell him you don't want him anymore and your feelings have changed when he left the first time. It is easier on the heart to leave than to be left trust me if feel better because I left.

Answer 4

Girl, it sounds like your bf has a lot of growing up to do. First of all, you need to not worry about his feelings, concern yourself with making you and that precious child of yours happy. He is a big boy and can take care of himself. If a man is going to treat you like that then you don't need to worry about hurting his feelings, you just need to let go. Let him know that you want him no more, that he can't treat you like dirt, that you are not going to stand for his behavior and you are moving on. Just be strong and don't let him make you feel guilty. You have to do what is best for you and your child. Perhaps this may be the wake up call he needs and he'll change his ways. At least change his ways to where you two can have a peaceful friendship and he can get back to what is important, your child.

Answer 5

The patented Ann Landers answer: go for therapy, no excuses. (if money is a problem there are free options, look online -- churches and local collages are a good start) If he refuses, then what's best for your family (i.e. your son and yourself) would be to be alone.

Answer 6

Just let him go and find someone else .Move on and get over this guy.He isn't gonna change.