I frequently review my daughter's on line journals without her knowledge scanning for situations that may be trouble. I have discovered correspondance and attempts to hook up with males she has met on line over 18, plans to be somewhere other than where she told me she was going etc. I never confront her. I just try to work it into one of those life lesson talks. I don't consider it snooping since it's on the net for all to see (if you have access) and look at it as another tool to give her more informed direction. What do you say?
2006-12-07 23:55:30 · 10 answers · asked by father of 4 husband of 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reading your daughter's online journal (or blog) is fair game. As you mentioned, it's on the internet and was meant to be publicly viewed. On the other hand, I think it's fair to say that she is probably not expecting you in particular to be one of the viewers. In fact, many bloggers I know are often surprised at how many people actually read their online thoughts and opinions and (usually when it's too late) hold back on what they publicly disclose when they find out who's reading it.
My two cents: you're doing the right thing. The best thing a parent can do is to be continually informed about what's going on in their child's life. Your passive approach in response to what you know is good. Intervention is always at your discretion and should only be used when absolutely necessary. Otherwise, she will feel like you have invaded her privacy and lose her confidence, and she might not only lash out at you, but be more selective in what she posts in her blog, taking away a vital avenue to her most true and candid thoughts.
2006-12-08 00:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by TimC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on her age. to what to do if she is 16 and under i would take the computer from her and only allow when you are with her over 16 i think you should let her know how you feel about the fact of what has been going on. you need to choose her life over her getting mad at you there is alot of freaks and weirdo's on the net. i could only be the next time she meets some that hes dont come home. that is your kid you do what you think is best for her no matter how she feels now when she has kids of her on she will think back and understand why you do what u do.good luck and god bess
2006-12-08 08:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say she is your daughter and as long as she is under 18 you have not only a right, but a responsibility to 'snoop' in order to protect your daughter! And you are right, if it is an online blog, its not 'private'. Keep looking, reading, and teaching life lessons...watch out for your daughter, no one else will!
2006-12-08 08:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your daugther?? if she is under 16 well I think you are doing the right thing.. specially if you have seing something in there that could worry you as of your daugther's safety.. at this point I would say to my daughter look I have heard some scary things about young girls and internet dating that really spooked me and so for your protection Im going to have to supervise your computer sections or look up in this type of thing..Im sure they have some kind of computer protection thing for minors.I have minors and soon they will be teens so I have to look this up, is like locking channels on tv.. If I were you this is what I do to make sure of your daugther safety and if she doesn't like it is ok she knows is because you care and love her. good luck. LOOK IT UP COMPUTER INTERNET SAFETY.. type that and find out or type something like protection computer teens. and it should take you to what you need. good luck.
2006-12-08 08:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are invading her privacy!!! thats it its not fair on her. if you plan on going through this without confrongting her about anythin then it is personal invasion in her own home!!! it doesnt mater her age. if your going to confront her about these things then fine but if you dont plan to then i think its a good idea to stop looking through these journals. otherwise she'll find out somehow and it may destroy any trust she ha in you. dont let your father daughter reltionship get ruined because of this.
2006-12-08 08:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats wrong...shes young n shes a girl of course shes gunna be kissing boys just like u did when u were young tell her everything she needs to know, and let her make her own decisions n learn after all thats what life is all about...im sure shes a smart girl shell figre things out \..i guess ur doing th right thing by just making her aware
2006-12-08 08:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Big Dawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her butt down and tell her what you've been doing, even though she may hate you for a while she'll get over it... so dear tell her what you've done and how you feel about her liying about what she's doing and where she's going
2006-12-08 08:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on you r on right track.
2006-12-08 08:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by people of world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would confront her...betta safe da sorry
2006-12-08 08:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her someone told you what she was doing and tell her to stop it...
2006-12-08 08:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋