i need help figuring out what to do its like i can't make important decisions for myself i broke up with my bf of 2 years last night then i called him back saying im sorry i didnt mean to do it...but then i just completly dropped all my reasons for doing it...my reasons were because i still feel like i can't be myself around him and im curiuos still of whats out there he said i cant just let him go and expect him back at my convenice, and that every single gf he had broke up with him the way i did thankin him 4 everything he has done then leaving i feel like the damage is done n i ****** up his head n now it won't be the same, but im not sad i just kinda feel like i cant think or feel i odnt know weather to get him back or move on he told me on the phone im loseing the greatest thing i ever had and he wants me to feel bad for breakin up that really made me think cuz he is an amazing guy theres just something about him that pushes me away its his confedence n attitude towards everythin
2006-12-07 23:54:40 · 6 answers · asked by Big Dawg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If there is something missing in the realtionship odds are you aren't ever going to find it. I think your best bet is to just move on and find someone who makes you happy.
2006-12-08 00:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually considering your other posts.. you could find someone much greater in your life.
Maybe not someone who loves you as intensly.. maybe so..
but you need to be loved in all the ways that you need it... and want it..
If he says "everyone does this to me i want you to hurt"
he isnt worth your time.
frankly if 2 people have done that to him.. he should develope to where it doesnt happen again. but its not the case. he will continue to call himself the victim and keep going down that path.
you will find someone who fits you better...
just write out what you want and need in a guy.. completely... and if you really want to be like he is being.. send it to him and attach a letter tellin him how you really do care about him, but he just doesnt have these qualities. qualities that you must have. dont add fluff or anything.
list of what you want
list of what you need (whether this is true, he cant say anything to it......... include an understanding man, who wont hurt me in spite, one that would see the best in my decisions and love me for them) he cant do that.. acording to above, and it will make him a better person id hope.
and in the letter be very specific. cold-like... like he is a business document lol
you do not meet this: add whats on your list
thats why we wont work, why drag it on?
your better off... if you lovem and dont want him to hurt more.. make the lists. he cant argue. if he tries, he is a horrid listener.
this is what you expect, and he doesnt meet it... so you must move on.. not to something better, but to something that suits you better.
good luck, you did the right thing.
2006-12-08 08:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your confused about it then you need to break up. You shouldn't stay with someone just because they say you're losing something great. If it was all that great - you wouldn't have ever thought about breaking up to begin with....right!?
2006-12-08 07:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by yakimaniacs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It amazes me, when people clearly see the warning lights flashing in front of them - they still want to cross the tracks! Your inner intuition is flashing! Thinking of going back? - Wait for the Ding!...Ding!...Ding!
2006-12-08 08:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by flsuave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not him. Sounds like you need to focus on you for awhile.
2006-12-08 07:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your chance. you should have never broken up with him in the first place, Now he has doubts.
2006-12-08 07:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋