Is having an affair a shared responsiblity. Is it true that a woman may wander if emotional needs r not met?

Question

Please can others share their view, am in wrong in believing that a woman can love a man very much ,but if this man takes this for granted, everything is all one way, never really feeling that she is good enough and always trying to win approval yet they still have fun but when another man comes along and shows interest ,understanding and a willing to be there when needed, should both parties take take responsibility that there have been reasons why an affair may have happened or is all the womans fault and she is branded a cheat liar and disloyal for the rest of her time with him

Answer 1

I can relate to everything you're talking about here... and I think alot of married women can. Men have a tendency to take their wives for granted when they, themselves feel content... they just assume the wife is content too. Trying to talk to them, make them see your point, how you feel, how they're acting, is the best way to deal with it, but from experience, that doesn't always work, and they don't always listen.

So yes, affairs can start because of the reasons you describe, and even though it shouldn't brand a woman liar and cheater for the rest of her life, anymore than it should a man,... it will always effect the relationship, and the level of trust between the partners. A person should always contemplate the possible consequences of an affair before it happens, and be sure they're willing to suffer with them first.

Answer 2

Emotional affair? quite, i'd tell the bastard to wander away. Sorry yet, it makes me ill at the same time as women human beings tolerate this style of blatant disrespect. a wedding ceremony is a sacred bond and if he won't be able to appreciate you sufficient to no longer bypass venturing out for the relief of yet another woman, then obviously you aren't from now on the female for him. He has needs that are not being met and at the same time as i'm confident he tries to positioned that off on you, those are his own insecurities and he needs to handle them by counseling or wander away. So he emotionally had and affair at the same time as he emotionally performed your coronary heart strings, he in common words did those issues out of guilt. he isn't any longer sorry he did it, he's sorry he were given stuck and he assumed by diverting your interest with playing cards, plans for the destiny to distract you from what he became quite doing. Being a PRICK! in case you hadn't of stuck him it may were extra, and the reality is it (dishonest) in common words receives extra accessible...

Answer 3

Once a cheater always a cheater. You can try and place the blame on him, but you should have not been a coward in the first place.

If you have feelings for someone else you need to break up with the other guy first. If you don't, you have very low moral character. Almost snake-like.

"He made me cheat" is the lamest damn excuse in the book.

Answer 4

True, an affair is a result of a bad relationship. But this doesn't mean EQUAL responsibility because you must CHOOSE to have an affair. But women want a MAN. They lose physical attraction to a man that is needy and has no self confidence.

Answer 5

I think, after having been involved with this, after many years, there are many thing that come into view when you bring this up, not just one thing.
Married to young: Never had time to have fun: Tired and burdened: Tied down with the kids to much.

The there's the: "It was an infatuation" "He talked me into it" "We only did it once to try it"

There's always an excuse, never a reason and they always want forgiveness and forget about it (they do) in weeks, while you carry a burden for years.

Answer 6

Women owe men nothing. We are free to flip from man to man according to what we need.

This is not an affair but rather a women in persuit of what she deserves.

It is natural for women to stray as they are very intune with what their heart and body need. If one man does not meet the requirement it is natural and appropriate for her to have that need met by a better man.

Answer 7

hell yeah ladies cheat i don't give a **** what people say if your not taking care of the person you love they ll find someone who will believe that

Answer 8

Do you feel this should apply to men straying too?

Answer 9

wimmins gotta be loyal to their jerk no matter who comes along. its the law of the west.